Thoughts on this situation, anyone?
Ready for a mini novel? My boyfriend & I have been together for almost three years. I originally thought he was one of the most "laid back" people I had ever met. He was very good at hiding how he felt from me at first. He doesn't like/gets very nervous in certain situations like giving presentations at work, being in crowded places (grocery, dept. store, restaurant, etc.). He frequently makes comments like, "I hate people" or "People get on my nerves". He is a nail biter & a "skin picker". It is routine for him to have a meal then be nauseated (as quickly as within 15 minutes sometimes) & have to make a beeline for the nearest bathroom. We have had to alter plans in a moment's notice because he is too ill & that's no way to live. Stomach problems run in his mother's side of the family. About 5 years ago he had a bad spell, went to the hospital, had tests run, drank barium for the x-ray - nothing was found. The pain is really bad at times. His previous doctor thought he had irritable bowel syndrome, told him to get some Metamucil, drink water (he drinks Pepsi continually), eat better & had him on BuSpar, which didn't really help him. He started going to a new MD on Sept. 1 of this year, had blood work, urine & stool analysis done which only returned a higher than usual number on a liver test-he was told it was nothing to worry about. He was diagonsed with GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder). The doc put him on 25mg of Zoloft, then up to 50mg in Oct., then up to 100mg in Nov. He said he felt like it was helping him. I went with him in Nov. because the doc asked him to bring someone that knew him well that could tell what changes have taken place. I noticed increased irritability & fatigue. The doc looked at me, laughed & said that I may not like the person he becomes after he gets done with him! That struck me as odd, maybe he was just kidding, I don't know. He went through the usual side effects some people go through like dry mouth, headaches, dizziness, nausea, diarrhea, some vomiting, muscle stiffness & twitches. They passed after about two weeks of being on each dosage. His appetite has increased, & yes, he has a "sweet tooth" now. He is 30 years old, 6'3", & has been really thin all his life. I was told that after his divorce in 1994 he looked anorexic for a long time. Since I have known him he has gone from 185 to 199. Quite a few people at work & family have made comments that he looked like he had gained some weight & that he looks so much better. I agree.
He has been on 100mg since Nov. 2, 200 (almost a month) & has been saying that he feels like he is still tired all the time, has decreased libido, more nervous & "ready to jump out of his skin". He has talked about switching meds, but doesn't know what to ask to be switched to. I have read as much as I can find about all of the anti-depressants & thought Remeron sounded like it would be better because of the fewer side effects compared to SSRIs. He called his doc today & he told him to go off of Zoloft completely for five days then resume dosage at 50mg. That surprised me because I had the impression that a person would go through withdrawal symptoms going cold turkey for any length of time & I wonder why he didn't just say to take 50mg. But, I'm going on what I have been told & have read. I just want him to be healthy & happy. Any advice would be appreciated!