Does anyone know why some people are ugly and some are not? It's just not fair, we all know ugly people have it bad in this world. I'm very ugly, i'm not talking about a average looking person or decent, i mean one of those godawful looking people that you just feel sorry for, but still treat badly.
I can't believe how ugly I am, i've been born with the worse of everything, there's not one ok feature about me. Not even my name is normal it's so ugly i can't even use it thats why i'm calling myself buttugly, cause my mother gave me the worse name imaginable, guess she thought it was fitting when i was born. This has caused my personality to become abnormal, since i'm such a freak, I can't act normal because i've never had normal experiences with other humans. I can't really talk or look at people, because i'm so ashamed, but i want friends, i just can't be normal no matter how hard i try, i feel parilyzed in my body, cause i know i'm not really shy but i come off that way cause i never talk, i don't talk because i dont want the stares and critizism. I thought i would outgrow my ugliness, but i'm still ugly. It's getting worse and worse, i'm overweight now, but even when i was skinny i looked bad. Make-Up doesn't work at all, hair is horrible, big nose and can't afford a nose job, crooked teeth that can't be fixed (dentist said so), scars all over my body (stretch marks from too much weight gain), making it so i cant ever wear shorts or a dress or event short-sleeves. Why me? I've never had any normal experiences, no friends at all, not dates ever, no phones calls, no invitations, nothing, i'm invisible, i think i'm dying from lack of human contact and companionship. People hate me because i'm ugly, all i get are stares and giggles, but people hate me moreso, because i won't change. People think that if they give me a little advice and i dont take it that i'm not trying. Often i take all the advice i'm given, it just doesn't work and people don't know it, so they assume i never tried. I try everyday, but now it's to the point where i don't care anymore. Sometimes if i ever let someone know about my problems, they might feel sorry for me but after a short while they forget and don't care anymore, but meanwhile i'm still suffering worse and worse everyday, so you see, i don't want any advice or suggestions for help because they won't work and you'll soon forget about me, but i'll still be alive suffering. I can't be helped. I'm not that old, but i'm old enough, and i've missed so many crucial times in my life and i have so many horrible memories, that i can even barley get out of bed. I just wanna die. I dont have the strength to ever kill myself (will never happen), i just want a natural death. If god doesn't just make me die, i might have to live 40 or 50 maybe even 60 more decades of misery. Please pray for me to die, i pray everyday, but god never answers any of my prayers, i guess i'm too ugly even for god, but maybe if other people pray for me, people who don't have such bad luck, well maybe i'll get my wish to die. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/frown.gif">
As hard as it is, you have to learn to not care about what other people say or think. In your case, maybe you should seek some professional help. Maybe get some one to help you lose weight. And just start one by one. You can not live the rest of your life feeling like this. And I hate to hear anyone say that they are praying to die!!! Maybe you could go to a support group for people with depression.
You definitely could benefit from therapy [the right therapist]. I think [just my opinion] that you should seek a good psychiatrist. This is not an insult; it is meant to be helpful. I go to one and I'm much better off for it. Good luck.
I'll pray for you. Not for you to die, but for you to have at least one person come into your life who can give you some friendship. And maybe a dog too. I get a lot of love from my animals and they never give advice, just love. I've also found that elderly people in nursing homes are very accepting because they are so in need of companionship themselves. When my father-in-law was in a nursing home, I became friends with many of the people there, and it did ME worlds of good. They didn't care that I was fat and had stretch marks (I do too!).
if you smile and radiant some sort of positive enrgy or light or become a born a gain christian then people will like you more or youll feel better anyway. i feel the same way in a way im 47 single tired and had few or no experiences with alot of so called real people and im ...well i guess inm not considered uglyat least when im not looking paraniod and grimacing at people. you oought to start by chaging your name here. dont think of yourself in a negative way. i know its hard because i cant seem to get outof this thing im in ,.. i just dont feel free like i did in seattle i guess , i feel pigeon holed here.
Hey Buttugly,
I hate to tell you this, but life ain't fair and no one ever said it was.
Your just gonna have to play the hand you were delt and make the best of a bad situation. I always wished I was handsome, built like tarzan, and had the money that Bill gates has.
But..guess what? I'm still ugly, built like..well, not good anyway, and almost broke all the time.
I never had a bunch of friends growing up, we moved too much. I was a loner...and shy and ugly to boot. We were not poor as such but the next thing to it.
Now forty some odd years later, Guess what, I ain't got no prettier or richer.
But I decided that I had to make do with what I had and to quit wishing for something I would never get.
So...I'ts your choice, feel sorry for yourself or make do with who and what you are.
Peace
You asked why you are ugly. I don't know why. I don't have that answer.
You don't want advice so...I am not here to give you advice. But I am here to offer you friendship and support because I hear you asking for that in your life.
Also, I am here because you and the others on this board can and have helped me work through the challenges that I face in my life.
You found something you liked about this board just like I did. You took the risk to post and share your deepest fears, anger and frustrations and to asked for others to pray for you. You want friendship and so do I.
My prayers are with you.
First of all who ever gave you the idea that you were ugly, oh let me guess when ever you turned on the tube every channel would portray some kind of sexy exotic woman that every girl wishes they could look like. Or when you would go to the store and at the check out line youd see some beautiful woman on the cover and if you just bought the magazine you could maybe find some helpful hints to make you a little more like her. I'm sorry I don't know you but I m going to say this anyway, You are just one of the many millions of woman in this country who wish they could look like a super model . It''s too bad you have fallen for those chessy imitations of what society calls beauty, I think it's rediculous to limit yourself to a certain standard of beauty, you are obviously trying to impress the wrong kinds of people, Our country is a sick sad place noone will ever be perfect enough, noone will ever be beautiful enough, Why not go do something useful like food not bombs or something feed the homeless, sick and dying help out another person and you just might feel some kind of rewardance, not the kind you might want, but if looking pretty is the only thing that will make you happy , then noone can help you out there, consider yourself lucky you are able to read and write, have a home to live in, food , heat, . you better be happy with what you got, you'll never get anymore.<p>[This message has been edited by pogues6 (edited 01-16-2001).]
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by ButtUgly:
<B>i asked for no advice about getting help, but of course thats what i got, thanks for nothing. i guess it'll never end</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
It won't end because you won't let it. Because you are giving up.
First of all I do feel your pain. It must be terrible. A lot of people who consider themselves ugly are only that way in their own eyes. You are hard on yourself and the depression is feeding that. Don't waste another minute of your life. Get angry with yourself and take some kind of action. Life can be wonderful if you let it happen. Therapy can help, you may be afraid of something else and that could be holding you back. Regards
P.S. Get yourself a dog, a good first step. You'll feel needed and that will get the ball rolling.....
I am not exactly Mr Attractive, and the following thought always helps me:
Beautiful people have it all to lose! I have seen many people start to crumble inside when their outside starts to age. They have always taken their beauty for granted, and then they lose it.
You are right it isnt fair, but what is? Sometimes you have to force life to be fair, or rather force the people you meet in life to be fair!
I am all for the concept of duality - there is good and bad in everything.
It sounds to me as if you are feeling sorry for yourself. You perceive things the way you think they are and maybe not the way they actually are. Someone stares which you apparently perceive they think you are ugly. What difference does it make what you look like? Why does it matter to you what someone thinks about your looks? These are just human beings you are talking about - the same as you. Even the so called "best" people have their flaws - whether they are readily visible or not. I don't think you could be considered that shy as you posted a message on this board. I have had a lot of moments when I perceived a situation that turned out to be something else. There are a lot of places on the internet you can go to meet new friends (such as Third Age). There appears to be people you can talk to here. You would feel better if you think more higly of yourself. It's along the same lines as someone being sick - if you tell them they don't look too good, they will feel worse!
