I hate New Year's Eve. It is bad enough that I have to suck it up on Thanksgiving and then xmas three weeks after but now new year's eve? I am just getting over the christmas holiday. I am invited to a dinner party which will be all couples. I am thinking of not going or leaving before midnight so i won't be the only one not kissing someone and happily looking forward to another year. Too much stress. At least, I have a bit of a breather before the next depressing holiday (valentine's day).
Hi! Please try and do something positive this new years. If you stay at home it will only make things worse on you and you really dont need to feel that way.
Love will happen for you and one day you will be happy. It just takes time.. Hold on for one more day because tomarrow will be better..
It's hard to say, but, sometimes New Years is a good night to stay home. After all it is amateur night, remember.
Going out on New Years eve also sounds nice -- you won't be alone and I'm sure all the friends will wish you a nice New Years.. you wouldnt be left out. Take the initiative and be the first to wish everyone a happy new years with a toast just before the stroke of Midnight and have a sip of Champagne as they are doing the smooch thing. Really, it's not the end of the world. Being with people who care about you is better than being alone. Look on the positive ... and smile...
Great Idea Alexis... concentrate on other days of the year that warrant your attention better than New Years Eve. It's really a lot of Hype... one of tahe previous posters is right... it is a BS occasion...
Can't you just take a friend? I admit it sucks when you're single, like I am, but make the most of it. Or go but keep low expectations so that if you expect to have the time of your life and you don't it won't seem like the end of the world. Just try to relax, not worry about the pressures. And the friend of yours who is throwing the party, did she actually say it's a couples party? That is really, really rude. Let me know what you end up doing.
Whatever you do, don't stay at home - it'll make you worse. You'll only be able to think of everyone else enjoying themselves while you're at home.
Get a friend (preferably another single one so you won't feel out of place) to accompany you to the dinner party - I'm sure an extra mouth won't be any bother for your hosts to feed and they'll understand how you feel.
I'm spending New Year with my best friend, her boyfriend and her boyfriend's parents! Now, that really will be a reminder of my single status!!
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Thanks everyone for the advice and encouragment. The thing is I do have a boyfriend, he could just care less whether I am alone or not. the problem is because of where I am (he stressed me out so much with all his problems, screaming and yelling, and name-calling which has set off a huge depression with me. I am okay now because of meds, etc.), none of my friends like him and he does not like any of my friends and I also don't like any of his friends. My friends don't even realize we are still in contact. Lies and more lies. I hate it. I know I should get away from him, but it is so hard. I just moved back in with my dad. I am twenty-nine and I am starting over again. I mean I'm living in the room I got ready for the prom in. Maybe my new years resolution will be to try and get away from him. My family is not too thrilled with him either.
On the bright side... Another one of my friends called, and I am going to go over there to hang out and watch football in the afternoon. They are all going to dinner (already have reservations) so I thought I go to the dinner party, leave at 11 and go back to their place which is in the neighborhood. Yeah, saved. They are all pretty much single too!
P.S. Kimberlylynn that is wonderful things have turned around for you. Keep sane.
I feel the same way. I was alone last year on New Years. I'd rather be by myself, but the world won't allow you to be away from people. You have to work with people everyday or you won't have any money which means you won't have food or shelter either. I hate being around "normal" people who worry about "normal" things and who have "normal" social lives. If they knew how I really am they'd think I was crazy. I spend most of my time trying to act "socially acceptable" instead of acting like myself.
I know what you mean about being alone on without anyone to kiss to bring the New Year's in. I'm 23 years old and I've never had a girlfriend andf I've never kissed a girl. I have to painfully endure the holidays because ther are so many romantic themes and activities that go along with them. Valentine's Day is the worst. This day serves as a reminder to me about how strange and lonely I am. I've never had a girlfriend or date on this day. I'm weird and my weirdness will not allow me to have someone I want.
Hi Alexis, I hope you survived New Year. I was supposed to go to a few parties but my husband had to make excuses for me at the last minute. I just stayed in and watched Party In the Park an English thing. Hey dont worry about going home, I was 28 when I went back home after breaking up an 11 year relationship. I didnt even get my room back as my sister was there due to breaking up with her husband!!!! I think my mum quite liked having children back in the home!! I always new that there had to be someone better for me. My previous partner was quite aggressive and abusive. I now have a fab husband which makes me feel stupid at myself for putting up with the other jerk so long!!