I really want to know. Is anyone really and truly happy? I know so many people that act like they are in total bliss, but then find out later that they are faking. I know everyone has problems, but to me, it just seems like no one is truly happy. I'm not. Sometimes I feel like I just "exist". Every day is supposed to be a "new day", but they all seem the same. Come on, everybody. Let me here from you!
It's not possible to permanently, totally happy in conventional life as all the things that make us happy are impermanent and ultimately unsatisfactory..
We all have fleeting moments of happiness or joy but these pass as do all feelings or moods. The best we can hope for is peace of mind during both the good and bad times when we accept life for what it is.....
As a Mahayana Buddhist my goal is to help myself and all sentient beings reach Nirvana which is the state of true understanding and enlightenment. Now that really would be a state of true happiness....... <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
Think deeply about what makes you happy and you will gain some insight.....
Texas... everyone has his or her ups and downs... that's obvious by now. The thing is... people like us just seem to stay down for so much longer, and the depression is so deep, you don't think that you will ever seem happy again. People not suffering from depression may feel very down still, every once in a while, but that's really just a part of life. They will feel okay again in the end, as will we! For us, it just takes a little longer and we have to work that little bit harder, but for sure it can be done! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
Well, that's the way I see it anyway. Not everyone may agree with me of course.
And to answer your question; no, I am not completely happy either. There are a lot of people who I know that come across as all happy-go-lucky, but deep down inside they are really hurting. That makes me so sad because no one can really tell because of the act they put on. Anyway, someday we will ALL (hear that, everybody?) be happy, we just have to give it time and work for it, but it WILL be done! (Anybody dare to argue with me? Didnít think so!)
Texas, every day IS a new day, but that doesn't mean that it is miraculously going to get better. Of course, that doesn't mean it won't! Instead, you will probably begin to see the changes more slowly. You'll slowly begin to feel that little bit better as you begin to recover from your depression. Every day is different. You may wake up one day and feel overwhelmingly 'down-in-the-dumps', but the next; you might feel the best you've been in a long time! It all depends, but someday, you won't have to feel so constantly depressed. I assure you! Just keep working on it and NEVER give up. No matter how hopeless your life may seem in your eyes at one moment, one day you'll think differently about it.
Before the depression, I was 1 of those happy go lucky people. I always had a smile on my face & the world was rosey. That's not to say I didn't have my moments. I would cry would something bad would happen. I would get angry if something angered me. etc. But I was soon over those feelings & back to my normal happy go lucky self.
Like Ashlee said, with the depression, I'm mostly sad now with some moments of happiness rather than the happy go lucky person. I so do want to get back to where I used to be, but it is a fight. One day I will get there. I hope.
I've got to quit typing, this is upsetting me, I'm sorry. Cat
P.S. It's not your post it's my memories, so please don't feel guilty, it's just me.<p>[This message has been edited by catgirl (edited 05-27-2002).]
hi l think thats why we have all them emotions saddness happiness excitment moods, NOONE is 100% of the time happy, life doesnt work out like that we all suffer blows in our life in an ideal world it would be nice though take care <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/wave.gif">
Nobody can possibly be 100% happy the whole of the time. If anyone seems to be then they are probably faking it. But hopefully most people are happier than I am. Which is not very happy 50% of the time and extremely unhappy the rest!
Sorry, not a very positive reply, Jay x
What is happy? What is fun? If anybody is happy here, then I don't think they belong. Sorry! I didn't say you couldn't have fun. Two different things. Sometimes I can have fun, but not for very long you know. I don't know what happy is. I usually don't wear a mask, though I have in the past. They say think positive and smile. We have more muscles in our face for smiling which is supposed to mean we can smile a lot easier than frowning. I don't think mine exist or I guess they're too weak. Smiling to others though does leave a better impression. Don't worry, be happy! Huh? deja vu!
I know what you mean by "exist" and every day is a
new day. It is our responsibility, I believe, to get
ourselves out of routine, or rut. The saying goes,
Do things the same way, You get the same results.
So try something different. Vary the routine, take a
different route home, etc. However, I am middle age,
and I find a lot of things very routine, mundane,
nothing "new" anymore. I try to be grateful for what I have, and thankful for boring. (However, I do suffer
from PMDD that makes getting started in the
first 1/2 of the day--take forever! It's the same thing for me to face every morning) I wish life had
more moments of serendipity, creativity, passion, etc.
Half the time, I am plodding along to make it through, the rest of the day to live to the fullest, but day
is over too soon. Depression is a time bandit! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/hammer.gif">
I don't see being happy as the opposite of depression. Happiness is an emotion like anger, fear, sadness, etc. Depression is an illness like heart disease, cancer, diabetes, etc. I can sometimes be happy but still have/be depressed. For me, depression is a heavy, empty, (it's difficult to explain) feeling inside. One of the symptoms of it is that is can, and definately does, effect my emotions. Depression is not my emotion.
Gail<p>[This message has been edited by Gail (edited 05-27-2002).]
I don't even think ppl w/bipolar depression have 100% happiness in those few precious moments of happiness.
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by WallSal55: Depression is a time bandit! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/hammer.gif"> [/B]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
That is so true. It takes away so much time and effort just to concentrate on living.
The only time I have happiness was when I had no worries and just hanging out with my friends or family.
But you know who does have 100% happiness?
<I> [b] NO ONE [b] </I>
oh, that's another thing, meditation is a [b] GREAT help for depression and getting minds off things. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/wink.gif">
Usually, total happiness is a facade, so be forewarned!
TexasChick- Have you heard Celine Dion's A New Day Has Come?
It's inspirational and helped me get over some of my depression, a guy, and my bad grades to become a lil better... So do listen to that too!<p>[This message has been edited by minerva (edited 05-28-2002).]
Koko, this is in no way meant to offend (I am probably famous around here by now for having edited messages etc. ) but you could paddle over to here ... we have two spare bedrooms (no kids) .. plenty of trains around here too, although not like Kokopelli, Acela etc...