re: Feeling depressed and miserable all the time?
Hey JC...You are not alone, my friend. Sometimes it helps to hear that because depression is so isolating. I, too suffer from severe depression and anxiety. I have lived with it for more years than without it. I think I was even depressed as a child, but didn't have the vocabulary for it. It took YEARS of therapy to help me to cope with so many issues (too many to list). I saw a psychologist for cognitive and behavioral therapy. It took months of sessions before I could even share my true feelings. I learned a lot from my therapist that I will practice daily for the rest of my life. I also tried several anti-depressants over the years. Finally, I started Zoloft in the late 90's when I was covered in hives (my stress manifested itself). I have continuously taken 100 mg nightly since then. NO...It's not a magic pill. NO...there is no miracle solution. The hard truth is that your success depends on the work you put into it. I would start with seeking out a therapist with whom you feel comfortable. That opens the door to other methods of "managing" depression.
Every person is different. I will briefly share my experience, and some "must-do's" in order to feel better. You simply CANNOT retreat into sleep for 15 hours per day. Sleep is seductive. It lures you into isolation, darkness, and the proverbial detachment from the outside world. You've got to get up, get out, get moving, then repeat for the rest of your life. Depression is a vicious cycle. You can actually "think" your way into a downward spiral. You need to distract those bad thoughts. Don't dwell on the problem. Work towards a solution. Fake it til you feel it, literally. Oftentimes you must go through the motions of life before you can begin to live again. Start today....Start now....Go for a long walk and explore the beauty that is there. Be thankful that you CAN walk. Be thankful that you CAN see, though what you see while depressed is so very distorted. Listen to upbeat music. Dance like nobody's watching. Believe me, I'm no "Polyanna Sunshine" by nature. But I have to fight this illness every waking moment. When I start to feel pity for myself, I think of so many who have problems far greater than mine. My life mantra is "If I cannot see my way clear to gratitude for what I DO have, then I find that I can be grateful that I don't have worse things".
I believe in you. I believe you can overcome these feelings that overwhelm you. Start by changing your negative thinking. Focus on something positive...it's there=)
Last edited by WhistleDixie; 02-27-2014 at 08:54 AM.