huge question about social security disabililty insurance check - Disabilities Message Board

ladybug8372 · 04-28-2005, 07:56 PM

My father went out on disabililty sometime around 1988...I was around the age of 16. For some odd reason..(just learned about this yesterday, so havent had time to look into it)...my parents received a check a couple of months ago...(a social security disability insurance check)...issued to my father..but has my name on it as the minor child...I am now 32 years old...so .....

1)..we are not understanding why they are just now receiving this check...after all these years.....

and 2)...who is entitled to this check......me.... or my mother?????

my parents did not get the chance to look into this when it first came in the mail...as my father was very sick...and they wanted to wait until he got better before looking into it further...and before cashing it...but, unfortunately my father passed away in March, before they had the chance to look into it.

does anyone have any idea as to why they would be receiving this check now???? why did it take 16-17 years for them to get it???

feelbad · 04-29-2005, 07:23 AM

I would call your local ss dept and ask them to look into it.If this was done in error,and you cashed that check, it could come back to haunt you at some point when they discover the error and demand the money back.You may getting the check when they themselves discovered an error and are just now making it right.But either way, I would call them and have them look into it so you know for sure.Marcia

ladybug8372 · 04-29-2005, 11:10 AM

I called them this morning....twice...was told the same thing both times..they arent sure why it took so long to get the check, but regardless, the check is mine...since I am over 18 now. My mom does not believe this..and is very mad over it...at me, and at them as well.....she firmly believes the money is hers...even though they told her personally that it is not hers, that it is mine. However, since she refuses to listen to them, and to me, I am seeking the advice of an attorney. I do not want to risk having it haunt me, if they made a mistake.....so, because of moms anger...and because no one understands why it took so long for this check to be sent....I am going to look into it further..and make sure that it is legit for me to cash. They told me that mom, nor I should cash this particular check..that I need to bring it in to my local ss office, and have them re-issue the check in my name. Because this upset my mom so bad...I left the check at her house. Its not like she NEEDS the money.....she has "plenty" in the bank....she is just money hungry. I hate to sound cold hearted and rude about it....but she has always been this way.......

I have found out that the check is for only $433.00.....not a heck of a lot...but it definitely could benefit me. See, my father was very ill for the last 5 years....I helped to care for him...up until he passed in March. Because of having to be available 24/7---I was unable to work and help my husband financially. Now that my dad has passed, I am working on trying to get a job, so that I can help my dh with the finances. I put my family, my finances, etc, last on the list of my priorities...so that I could help mom take care of dad. Not once have they helped us....not even when asked. Its not the money....its the principle of the whole situation. I have give and give and give, done and done and done...when everyone else REFUSED to help.......not once did either of my parents say thank you.....not once have they ever offered to see if they could help us in return. and when I did ask for help..I was told "go to your mother in law...i'm sure she wouldnt mind helping you out!!!" I am angry at this time because of some things my mother said to me this morning....so I will close this before I say something I will regret.

Advice seeker · 04-29-2005, 12:19 PM

Why don't you split the money? Seems like the most obvious answer to me.

tip2mol · 04-29-2005, 02:06 PM

Hi,

Sorry- but I can't agree with the advice of splitting the money. The check is rightfully yours. My son receives a check each month as he is a minor and I became disabled. This check is to be spent on him and only him. Not a problem, this is where my money would go anyways. Your Mom should appreciate the fact that you were there to help. I believe it is a families duty to help care for their own, but I can tell you that before my health issues came up- that my 9 years of being an nurse proved that so many families are not there to help each other. If your Mom is not in financial need of this money, I should hope that she would be happy for you to receive it.
Use it to help with your needs. Like the social security administration said- This is your check, not hers.

Best wishes