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Old 02-24-2012, 11:00 PM   #1
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What do you say when people ask "What do you do?"

How do you respond to such an awkward inquiry? (It can be hard for those of us who don't know how understanding the asker will be, particularly if we suffer from a mental condition or an invisible physical disability)

 
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Old 02-25-2012, 04:31 AM   #2
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Re: Poll: What do you say when people ask "What do you do?"

Interesting question Sunni. I don't get asked this often but when I do, I tell them where I use to work and then I tell them I became too sick to work anymore and I was forced to go on disability due to my illness. I don't go into anymore detail than that. This can be a little awkward I suppose if you go out to buy a new car for example and they ask you on the finance application about your job and how much money you make.

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Re: What do you say when people ask "What do you do?"

I just tell them I'm retired it works most of the timebut sometimes they say you look so young to be retired then I just say I'm really old and they usually laugh but I don't like to tell anyone I'm on disability.

 
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Re: What do you say when people ask "What do you do?"

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I just tell them I'm retired it works most of the timebut sometimes they say you look so young to be retired then I just say I'm really old and they usually laugh but I don't like to tell anyone I'm on disability.
LOL jgrangran. I completely understand though. I don't particularly like telling ppl I am on disability either. Hope you have a terrific weekend.

 
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Re: What do you say when people ask "What do you do?"

Yes I having a good week-end. But really this day in time you have to be guarded with what you say sounds parniod right, Hope all is well with you guys.

 
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Re: What do you say when people ask "What do you do?"

I'm lucky because I just tell everyone I am a stay at home mom.

 
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Re: What do you say when people ask "What do you do?"

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How do you respond to such an awkward inquiry? (It can be hard for those of us who don't know how understanding the asker will be, particularly if we suffer from a mental condition or an invisible physical disability)
I "basically" tell people that I retired early.My close friends/family are the only ones that truly know what I have been through,as well as the long drawn out approval process.Its really nobody's business

But whatever makes you feel comfortable is perfectly OK in my opinion

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Re: What do you say when people ask "What do you do?"

The last time I was asked that, I was in my 20's, a stay at home mom, with a full house, gardening, church work, etc. People thought since I didn't have a 'real' job, I must be sitting home watching TV all day.

Now it is not a biggie, since my disability is physical and obvious. When I say that I am retired, no one gives it a second thought.

 
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in the 5-6 years i've been on SSDI i do not think i've been ever asked that question. I think if it does get asked i could just say I'm disabled. And not go into any detail.

 
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in the 5-6 years i've been on SSDI i do not think i've been ever asked that question. I think if it does get asked i could just say I'm disabled. And not go into any detail.
Yep, this is basically what I do Mscat.

 
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Re: What do you say when people ask "What do you do?"

Hello All,
I tell everyone retired also.....I worked 33 years before my disability started...Don't think I can retire from my Disability... work was easier. Have a great day!!
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Re: What do you say when people ask "What do you do?"

Just a FYI>>>

In Jan. 2012, the total SSA beneficiaries (SSDI, retirement,SSI) is approx. 61 million. Out of these, disabled workers like those of us on healthboards accounted for about 8 million of that 61, or about 14%. According to the current US census, the US population is approx. 313,085,758. 8,596,000 (disabled workers) / 313,085,758(total population) = approx. 2.7% of people from the total population who are disabled. Interesting! I think I did the math right.

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Re: What do you say when people ask "What do you do?"

Thats interesting info --

I was surprised that SSI was included in the census, since SSI are state funds.



update: oopps.. sorrry, apparently my coffee hasn't kicked in yet.

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Thats interesting info --

I was surprised that SSI was included in the census, since SSI are state funds.



update: oopps.. sorrry, apparently my coffee hasn't kicked in yet.
After working over 40 years I just say I'm retired ,and with my white hair enough said.

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Re: What do you say when people ask "What do you do?"

You still have hair Vann? Mine is starting to fall out.

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