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Old 03-26-2012, 06:34 AM   #1
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Lightbulb Well, what are the results to trample out isolation?

For those of us watching paint dry - and finding ourselves getting a bit depressed -- and mostly becoming isolated -- what were your results?

How many saw those private clubs for the 1st time and saw they were so close to the house, you said to yourself -- "Hmmmm. thats not even a mile from the house.. oh, there's another one! How many were relieved - excited even, to find a place where its very possible that we would find many just like us inside those buildings and could ward off the isolation?

I myself seem to be in the smack dab middle of 4 of them. Did anyone find any? Did anyone call or knock on their door to find out about the place?

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Re: Well, what are the results to trample out isolation?

I've been on SSDi for several yeas now. What has happened to me is YES, I have isolated myself very much. to the point that is is difficult to even leave the house. We live in a Rural city and I hate it here. That only makes things worse for me. their are no clubs wher eI live, and even if their were I would not go. my brother lovinly calls me a "hermit" but thats ok, i do not handle stress well and lots of noise or lots of things going on all at once. I did take my son to a movie Friday though, and The Hunger Fames was actually very good . My son is gone all day , so it is me amy two little dogs .One of them loves barking so it is nosy inside just becasue my dog will not stop barking she is a good little watchdog though. I really do not lik interacting much with others anymore do to trust issues and stuff, and I do spend a lot of time on the computor and like to watch those judge tv shows. I just have to wait allthe time for my son to get back home then it is busy. So yes, i got a lot of time on my hands most of the time, but it is the best way I can cope.

 
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Re: Well, what are the results to trample out isolation?

mscat perhaps when you get moved you could get in contact with a local center for independent living is what they are called here. They have a couple of get togethers a month often free and with transportation provided to help with the isolation issues. My son goes to about one a month and they have stuff for parents as well. It helps so much to be around other parents who understand what it means to have a disabled child. It also makes sure my son keeps in contact with his friends as well.

 
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Re: Well, what are the results to trample out isolation?

I think most of us can relate to how easy it is to watch paint dry. The problem with that, is that it is NOT healthy.

My isolation started for other reasons before my disability problems began. A few years ago my house was broken into and I was robbed - and it became 'protect your home' for me and I seldom left except to work = seeing a psychologist. The SSD issue just made all that surface and really amplified everything.

ANYWAY -- my point is.. regardless we have to get out and get some sun, some fresh air. Mscat, take your son to the park for a change of pace. Have him walk the dogs around a small area (so you can keep a close eye on him, I don't know his age) That would be good for the both of you and the dog.

Ferd is right: We all need to get out. We ALL need ADULT interaction, besides handing the cashier at the grocery store your credit/debit card to pay for the groceries.

 
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Yes, I am thinking about getting involoved with other parents with special needs kids , they meet a couple times a month. I was even thinking about getting involved in helping foster children, they have mediaters that help the kids and are support the children and are like meidaters between the parents and th kids. their will be a lot more thngs i could do after moving out of this tiny town which is full of gangs and violence.

 
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I think most of us can relate to how easy it is to watch paint dry. The problem with that, is that it is NOT healthy.

My isolation started for other reasons before my disability problems began. A few years ago my house was broken into and I was robbed - and it became 'protect your home' for me and I seldom left except to work = seeing a psychologist. The SSD issue just made all that surface and really amplified everything.

ANYWAY -- my point is.. regardless we have to get out and get some sun, some fresh air. Mscat, take your son to the park for a change of pace. Have him walk the dogs around a small area (so you can keep a close eye on him, I don't know his age) That would be good for the both of you and the dog.

Ferd is right: We all need to get out. We ALL need ADULT interaction, besides handing the cashier at the grocery store your credit/debit card to pay for the groceries.
You are right don't let your disability turn you into a hermit, get out and enjoy life, I know ever since I moved to Florida I get out every day.

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Re: Well, what are the results to trample out isolation?

I agree Vann. This computer helps a little but it can't replace real time, real world interaction with other human beings. I also feel better I notice after I have a therapy session with my mental health doc. He talks to me about not only my mental health problems but other things in general like his apple ipad and apple iMac. We have also talked about food and travel. I once falsely thought I will remain isolated and just wait until I finally feel better, then slowly make my entrance out into the real world again. The isolation is actually making me worse. Sometimes if you challenge yourself just a little and step outside your comfort zone occasionally, you will find to your delight you feel a little better and discover something you thought you were incapable of. Today, my goal is simple. Get out of my room away from this computer and rake 1/3 of my back yard. The sunshine will do me good I think. I actually don't feel like doing this today because of my stupid, constant anxiety but I thought to myself I always feel this way to one degree or another. Maybe if I get out and do this today, I will feel better than I do right now. Have a great weekend everyone. Give thanks to all the people in your life who love and care about you and love them back.

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I agree Vann. This computer helps a little but it can't replace real time, real world interaction with other human beings. I also feel better I notice after I have a therapy session with my mental health doc. He talks to me about not only my mental health problems but other things in general like his apple ipad and apple iMac. We have also talked about food and travel. I once falsely thought I will remain isolated and just wait until I finally feel better, then slowly make my entrance out into the real world again. The isolation is actually making me worse. Sometimes if you challenge yourself just a little and step outside your comfort zone occasionally, you will find to your delight you feel a little better and discover something you thought you were incapable of. Today, my goal is simple. Get out of my room away from this computer and rake 1/3 of my back yard. The sunshine will do me good I think. I actually don't feel like doing this today because of my stupid, constant anxiety but I thought to myself I always feel this way to one degree or another. Maybe if I get out and do this today, I will feel better than I do right now. Have a great weekend everyone. Give thanks to all the people in your life who love and care about you and love them back.
You will live longer beeing cooped up in your house or apt. Is not healthy your body needs sunlite and if you can exercise this alone will extend your life. Like today I have to get a EKG then go to the grocery store and then latter we are going to my fiancé coworker going away party she is leaving to go live in Germany her husband is being transferd there. My vascular dr. Told me to walk and walk and walk, that's what I'm doing. My disability is not going to run my life. I'm in charge of my body not my disability.

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You will live longer beeing cooped up in your house or apt. Is not healthy your body needs sunlite and if you can exercise this alone will extend your life. Like today I have to get a EKG then go to the grocery store and then latter we are going to my fiancé coworker going away party she is leaving to go live in Germany her husband is being transferd there. My vascular dr. Told me to walk and walk and walk, that's what I'm doing. My disability is not going to run my life. I'm in charge of my body not my disability.


I went and had my physical this past week. All was good. I was mostly concerned with my kidneys/liver since all the meds we take can destroy them. He said all is good. Went to the dentist also this week, and I who have been what many would call anal about their teeth, all of a sudden I have to have some serious work done. deep cleanings and 2 redo on a filling and a new cavity. THIS SUCKS! But what concerned me was the hygienist thinks its possible some of my meds could be causing the spot gum receding. May need to do graphs. I have 2 crowns period. Now all of this. When I went to doc for the physical, saw the PA and she blew the medicine theory off. I don't like her much tho. I'll wait to see Doc. The hygienist said since I was concerned with my liver - milk-thistle.(I think that is what she called it) Says a great deal has been written up about it in medical journals.

But my POINT is... going to doctors isn't what I mean by resolving our isolation. Neither is raking the lawn, although, that is an activity for exercise and it is healthy.

To eradicate Isolation - or what I believe the definition means is to get out among other human beings & socialize. And I don't mean keeping doctors appts. Join clubs/organizations that you have common denominators/activities.

I did join one of those private clubs who do a great deal of charity work. Their social room we would call a bar. Drinks ARE cheap. They have many activities. They even have a kitchen which they do Sunday breakfast for everyone who comes (members for $5) AND they also cook for the hungry. There is a large park that some homeless people live in and they cook for them too for the same $5. Its a huge breakfast - they don't skimp so they tell me. They said its like the Country Boys-Country Boys breakfast on steroids. Not so healthy I guess, but those homeless folks will get full. You can also choose smaller more healthier breakfasts as well. They organize day trips. Currently they are setting up a trip to casino's! Can't beat that with a stick - and its an activity that would require interaction with other human life.


Anyway -- who else got out and refused to look at the same 4 walls in their home and had positive results?????

come on, share.

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The dentist is the one thing I don't have to worry about. When I lived in Chicago my fiancé worked for a dentist I have dentures since I was in my late 30's any she got me implants 2 implants on the bottom and new upper and lower dentures that look and feel like real teeth,only cost me $ 0. No Moore dental pain never again.

 
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LOL, I hear Vann...rock on my friend!

 
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I recall taking to you about the dental implants. I was concerned about pain but you told me the pain was not that bad. I have all my teeth but one. Most are covered with caps. I did come close to having one pulled several months ago but a root canal was able to save me. LOL, If I have any future extractions, I will definitely go implant even if the majority of the dental fees have to be paid OOP.

Enjoy your weekend Vann! Hey, I know you don't care too much for the trikes but what about those new Can-Am Spyders (3 wheeled motorcycles). It has two front tires and one in rear. Also, has a reverse which I thought was cool as hell. LOL I heard Jay Leno purchased one of the 1st ones to come off the assembly line.

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I went and had my physical this past week. All was good. I was mostly concerned with my kidneys/liver since all the meds we take can destroy them. He said all is good. Went to the dentist also this week, and I who have been what many would call anal about their teeth, all of a sudden I have to have some serious work done. deep cleanings and 2 redo on a filling and a new cavity. THIS SUCKS! But what concerned me was the hygienist thinks its possible some of my meds could be causing the spot gum receding. May need to do graphs. I have 2 crowns period. Now all of this. When I went to doc for the physical, saw the PA and she blew the medicine theory off. I don't like her much tho. I'll wait to see Doc. The hygienist said since I was concerned with my liver - milk-thistle.(I think that is what she called it) Says a great deal has been written up about it in medical journals.

But my POINT is... going to doctors isn't what I mean by resolving our isolation. Neither is raking the lawn, although, that is an activity for exercise and it is healthy.

To eradicate Isolation - or what I believe the definition means is to get out among other human beings & socialize. And I don't mean keeping doctors appts. Join clubs/organizations that you have common denominators/activities.

I did join one of those private clubs who do a great deal of charity work. Their social room we would call a bar. Drinks ARE cheap. They have many activities. They even have a kitchen which they do Sunday breakfast for everyone who comes (members for $5) AND they also cook for the hungry. There is a large park that some homeless people live in and they cook for them too for the same $5. Its a huge breakfast - they don't skimp so they tell me. They said its like the Country Boys-Country Boys breakfast on steroids. Not so healthy I guess, but those homeless folks will get full. You can also choose smaller more healthier breakfasts as well. They organize day trips. Currently they are setting up a trip to the Hard Rock casino's on the ****** Reservation for $25! Round trip on a bus AND you get $25 in chips and $10 for food. Can't beat that with a stick - and its an activity that would require interaction with other human life.


Anyway -- who else got out and refused to look at the same 4 walls in their home and had positive results?????

come on, share.

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Great post Jacki. My mental health doc tells me the same thing you said in this post. I have gotta slowly just inch my way back into the real world where real people live. My cyber virtual world "helps a little" but it just isn't the same thing.

 
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I recall taking to you about the dental implants. I was concerned about pain but you told me the pain was not that bad. I have all my teeth but one. Most are covered with caps. I did come close to having one pulled several months ago but a root canal was able to save me. LOL, If I have any future extractions, I will definitely go implant even if the majority of the dental fees have to be paid OOP.

Enjoy your weekend Vann! Hey, I know you don't care too much for the trikes but what about those new Can-Am Spyders (3 wheeled motorcycles). It has two front tires and one in rear. Also, has a reverse which I thought was cool as hell. LOL I heard Jay Leno purchased one of the 1st ones to come off the assembly line.
Hey blue I don't live motorcycles with training wheels those cams are so stupid looking you would never see one of those along with rice burners at any of the bars I use to hang out at. Harley only. Also my teeth came in bad because my mother had tb when she was pregnant and all the drugs they gave her in 1955 when tb was not that we'll known. So that's why my teeth was so bad.

 
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Do you like choppers? They look cool as hell but also very uncomfortable to ride and handle.

 
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