Divorce - The last Option
I have come to the point in my marriage that it looks like it will be necessary to file for a divorce. We have been in couseling 4 times during different periods of time over the years, and it does not look as though things are changing. I always have believed that marriage should be a lifetime committment, but it is effecting my emotional well being at this point. My husband has ADHD and one of the huge problems in our marriage has been his inability to either be happy in, or hold a job. Also, when he does lose a job, he takes his sweet time in finding one, putting me through emotional turmoil, having to take on the financial responsibility. He has been out of work (again) for the last 4 1/2 months and he will be receiving his last unemployment check this coming week. He has been in school (in an accerated progam that he goes to class one night a week) for the last 2 years, to finish his BS degree, and doesn't seem to understand why I am so worried and upset. Meanwhile we have a son in college and bills to pay. He thinks everything will be fine when he finishes school around the summer of 2007, but since his record of being responsibile and providing on a consistent basis, has been so poor, I no longer have faith or trust in him. I told him months ago that I can not go through this again, and if he doesn't have a job by the time the unemployment runs out, that was it. So here we are, the holiday season and once again, my husband has no job, with Christmas right around the corner.
So, it looks like I will be filing for divorce in the next week or two and am hoping that someone has knowledge in this area. We have no savings left and I was hoping that someone can help guide me as to the least expensive way to go about finding out what my rights are and how to protect myself financially as much as possible. Are the consultations with an attorney usually free? How do you go about finding a good mediator? Help!!!!!!
Last edited by NYGirlatHeart; 12-16-2006 at 08:23 AM.