If anyone can help me here it would be great! I am going through a very difficult time here with my husband. We have been married almost 9 years and been together for 13. During our marriage we had our bad times and I never really questioned the things that happened fully, so now I am putting pieces together and realizing these issues have never been resolved. Which has put my anxiety level so high, I can't sleep, it's hard to eat but I make myself. Basically, now that it is at an all time high and I'm about to talk to him about this (he has no idea). Basically, he is in a different state right now. We are in the middle of relocating, we had agreed that he go transfer with his job. Only now, I am realizing that I regret telling him it was ok, and I'd be out there after graduating college. But he really should never have left because he could have found a transfer easily. There are always jobs in his company. So, I am telling him he is going to have to come out here to help resolve these issues if he wants to stay married or it's the end of the road for us. But gosh, I am so nervous and scared to death to do this!!!It takes me forever to calm down. I am almost afraid I may pass out because it is so bad! I just don't know how to handle this!! I am a nervous wreck!!! I have my best friend to support me through this situation and have talked to a spiritual counselor. I have not yet mentioned it to my family, as I want to see what happens next. Then I will let them know, so then they can be there for support.