Re: Dating Younger Man...while going through divorce
Honestly, I don't think your age difference is a big deal. Sure there is 9 years there, but it's the maturity level of the both of you that counts. It's not like you are 29 and he's 20. If you both enjoy eachother's company and have a lot in common then age really is just a number.
As far as whether or not he is a "rebound" man, well, only you can decide that. I was completely over my ex-husband before I even filed for divorce. I kept on giving it another chance because of our daughter, which now I realize was only making it worse on her. I remember I filed for divorce on my mother's birthday and I took her out to lunch after. I was so happy to know that that phase of my life would soon be over. I met my current husband 4 months later and we hit it off instantly. He knew I was going through a divorce and he knew my ex wasn't making it easy on me. He was very worried about being a rebound, or worse, me going back to my ex. I assured him that my marriage was over long before the papers were filed and that the divorce proceedings were all a formality. I never had any doubts that what I felt for him was real and not because of the need to fill a void.
I don't know if my little story helped or not, but in any case I'm sorry to have rambled on. Some of the questions you need to answer for yourself are, who wanted the divorce, you or your husband. Usually the person who wants the divorce can move on a lot sooner and easier than the other one because the feelings changed for them before hand and they are more likely to be over the relationship. Also, if your husband wanted you back would you go? If the answer is yes then I think you have a pretty good idea what that means. You are the only one who will know for sure if your feelings for him are genuine or not. If you are completely over your (ex)husband and your marriage then I would be pretty confident that your feelings are real.