Originally Posted by Laylah
Well, this is the bit I just don't get Scarn; how come one minute it's just a "piece of paper", then the next minute it's a piece of paper worth divorcing someone over for the sole purpose of obtaining another piece of paper! I mean, either that piece of paper is worth something, or it's not! You cant go rushing to tear up one piece of paper in order to sign another piece of paper and all the while maintain pieces of paper have no significance at all!
Well acutally you CAN do just that! In one instance (the ex), it's simply a piece of paper because the emotional bond that was the basis for that paper is no longer. But in order to make legal in the law's "eyes", you DO need that second piece of paper to reap any of the legal, married benefits. And in order to get that second piece of paper you HAVE to obtain a divorce. So it's not as you say "a piece of paper worth divorcing someone over..." at all, it's that you are REQUIRED to divorce in order to get married again (obtain the 2nd piece of paper).
In my opininion, the TRUE bond is the engagement...it's where I bought the ring, and made the commitment. What really matters is the love. The wedding "paper" simply seals the fate.....now that didn't sound too good eh? (just kidding of course).