Re: bi-polar and marriage / divorce (long)
I agree with Tigger. You cannot be happy until you get straightened out. It's that simple. Whether he waits or not is up to him but you need to fix you before you can fix the two of you.
On a better note, things will get better. I know it is overwhelming and I know you feel like giving up but one day you will be happy. One day you will truely find the "self" through all this madness and that is a wonderful feeling. That was the best for me, realizing that there is a me under all the symptoms. I exist and I love myself. The hardest, and most important, thing to do is stay positive and never give up hope.
I wish you good luck.
Live the good days to the fullest, they are all too few.
Live the bad days with hope, there are many good days yet to come.