If you are no longer in love with your husband, and you are suffering emotionally to the point where you need to be hospitalized, then I definately would agree that some changes need to be made. Now let's put those changes aside for a moment and talk about your friend. This is a classic case of hero worship. Here comes this man, and he swoops in...in the same manner you wish your husband had done, he makes you feel safe and calm again, and now your in love. When my husband passed away, his best friend did the same thing for me and I fell head over heals. Many argue that it isnt real love. Whether it was or not I really cant say, I know it sure felt like it. But on some level, real love has to be reciprocated on some level. Having said that, the reality of it was, he was just honoring his friend, and trying to help me out. He didnt love me, he didnt want me, he just wanted to make sure I was ok. And I had to do the big embarassing thing of "confessing my feelings". OYE! Even reliving that day for a moment makes me wish the earth would swollow me alive! In short, not only did he not have the same feelings, but I chased the poor guy away, and have not seen or heard from him since. Oh well, we live and we learn. What I'm getting at, is dont be confused first of all. It is natural for feelings to develop for a person who comes along and makes us feel special again. A person who treats you like a priority and not just a pain in the butt. But dont forget what his intentions are, and if you value your friendship, leave as such. Also, it may benefit you to look for a different form of support to help you through this hard time. You could try a counselor, a support group, womens resource center, or something like that. It might help you to focus on what you need to do, along with giving you the support you need to get through it, without involving Mr. Wonderful and making things more complicated for you. I hope that helps some.