I think you just have to be involved in your life as much as possible. But it sounds like you're doing that. Hobbies, travel, friends, etc. Lots of people meet people through friends, they meet at parties their friends throw, through hobbies or activities. Though a lot of people are meeting these days through internet dating sites. It seems to be the wave of the future, though they don't always work. They didn't work for me, and I did it for 10 years.
Don't look at it as giving up. Just be the best you that you know how to be, and do what satisfies you and brings you bliss, and what you were meant to have will come, I believe. Good luck.
Well first of all I'm so sorry that happened! As far a "finding" love......I dont think it works that way. I tried to "find" love in any nook and cranny possible. But all I found was a couple of losers....nothing of any real substance. Today, I think it will happen when it happens......if it happens.....but I'm too busy to go looking for it. So my advice is......you dont have to give up on the notion of love. You still have a lot of life to live and you NEVER know where life will take you. But I wouldn't go looking for it. It's been 8 months since your divorced finalized. I think I would just stay busy, be social, live well, and let whatever is going to happen, happen. Good luck to you!
I'm very sorry this happened. It will take time for you to heal and feel yourself again.. how tragic. But you sound very grounded and realistic.
I would say get into some activities you enjoy, where you meet other people. Not just to meet men, but to meet lots of people. Like a bowling league or aqua arobics or other club you can do something you like once or twice a week. You'll meet people with the same interests and having a good bunch of lady friends might be just what you need! Eventually you will meet a nice man, but whats the rush! Find your self again and heal ..then you'll be healthy and ready for a great man to spend the rest of your life with, a true companion.
Ok, so maybe not a hobby.....but what about church, or a support group or something. I'm not trying to be religious here, but I started going to church......mostly for the social....and I love it! Everybody is friendly, and it's nice to get out. My kids love it too, and churches ALLWAYS need volunteers and help of one kind or another. I wish I could help more, but 3 little boys keep me pretty busy. But there absolutely HAS to be SOMETHING out there for you. You are just going to have to leave your comfort zone and broaden your perspectives a little. And please please please dont take this like I'm getting down on you. Change sucks! I absolutely understand what your going through. It's hard to start over, and scary too. Any and every insecurity you've ever had suddenly floods your brain and it feels helpless. But at some point, you will realize that although life didn't turn out the way you had planned, it isn't over. You will also realize how very little control you have on which way it actually takes you. Try as I might to make things go one way, life almost allways pushes them in another. I've learned I can fight it and probably lose, or I can roll with it. I think right now your tired from the fight. So be kind to yourself, and learn to roll for a while. Does that make sense? Good luck!