I'm sorry to hear your'e having such a problem..
It's an awful feeling what your'e going thru..
and there's very little any of us can say till you start to get it sorted..
I am an older female (59yrs) but I have gone thru a divorce after being faithfully married for 35yrs..
I had 3 spinal operations but he wasn't there for me..I ended up in a W/chr ..He couldn't hack it.. so he got a new woman..
My husband was having an affair unbeknownst to me at the time..
But I started suspecting in the 2nd yr and boy did it become a issue !!
The next few yrs were very scary, he was so determined to make me go loopy.. but I perservered and he lost the battle .. with police involved and all..
So I gave him a divorce in 2006.. a LOVELY feeling
I'm living a fantastic life without having to answer to him or Anyone..
I'm Free.. a good Feeling.. and I've met a new man since after yrs of being on a dating Site.. He treats me like a queen..
But you have 2 little children to think about.!!.
and he should consider their well -being as well..
Apart from paying for their upbringing as they go thru life..
He has to be made to be responsible.. so make sure you go to a Good lawyer..
(Mine were all grown up so no worries there.. )
I wish you luck as you go on ..
(it would be nice if he gave you another chance but I doubt it..) ..
maybe he sees the end of the road anyway...
Accept it and move on for everyone's sake..
Go get some good counselling if you feel you need it..
but make sure you have lots of good friends to share with..
that's most important..
And have a good cry.. also Most important.. don't hold it in..
Lots of Love and kind thoughts .. belle