Need Info to Protect My Rights
My husband of 27 years told me he is tired of trying and wants a divorce. We've struggled since early in our marriage and been to counseling several times. He had an affair in the past that I forgave him for about 6 years ago. I love my husband and this course of action is not my choice. I'm devastated and numb right now. He wants to complete the divorce process ourselves to save money. He is not vindictive. He wants to be friends. I'm having a hard time with that right now - maybe someday. He wants to stay in the house and do this over the summer (we're both teachers). I'm not sure I can handle him being here - it just hurts. We have 4 children living at home - two of which are still underage. The oldest are in college. I don't mind doing the paperwork and making the decisions - but I want to go into this with my eyes open. Knowledge is power. He's had time to think about this (he's been thinking about this for months apparently) - He just told me last weekend. I'm looking for any advice and information on what my rights are and what I should ask for to protect myself and my children. He says he wants us to stay in the house - but I'm not sure I can afford to and with today's home values, we can't sell it and get a clear title. I have a large student loan accumulated that will begin repayment in a year - money I never intended to use, but which we ended up living on as he was only working part time until just last August. Please help me with your guidance... Thank-you.