| Re: what do i do?
You know how guys say that marriage means no bedroom play? Well, I've noticed that women parrot the same thing, but with romance. Men woo and romance us, and then don't do it anymore after marriage! I have a similar issue, but not as big as yours, with my husband. I buy myself flowers because he doesn't get them for me. I get my own chocolates, my own perfume, my own whatevers. At first, I was really frustrated with it all because my friends have men that do do that stuff. I was green with jealousy!
Then, a friend left her husband and claimed that no romance was the reason (it wasn't). I couldn't understand it, he had given her everything she wanted; she went shopping every day, had a beautiful home, had things she needed and wanted, etc. So what if he didn't come home with flowers!!! Realizing I was getting even more jealous, and even a bit resentful of her leaving him because she had I what I wanted from my own marriage, I took a step back and really looked at my life and marriage. My husband was romantic, even if flowers and perfume weren't in the equation. He took care of the kids when I wanted a moment, he cooks dinner every night so I don't have to worry about it (he's an amazing cook and loves to be in the kitchen), he grows a garden every summer so that I (we) have fresh veggies for our table, etc.
So, my advice to you: don't throw in the towel just yet. Look around yourself at the things your husband does do and see if you can't find romance in them. Sit down with him, once more, because you owe it to yourself, and ask him what he thinks he should do for you (don't take I don't know/what do you want as an answer). Then, start 'dating' again. Go out to dinner (even if it's McD's), talk and laugh, etc. See if you can't find the spark again. Then, once you do (I really think you will), establish a weekly and monthly ritual for you two only. Talk and open a bottle of wine, go see a movie, watch tv, play a board game....anything to get the two of you laughing and talking!
Good luck, darlin. I think all will work out well for you. (p.s. it isn't a stupid reason for you to leave; your happiness and his happiness are imperative to a successful marriage.)
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