I'd like to start off with the fact that I'm 18 years old and my parents have been divorced for 11 of those years. My father moved out shortly after and our relationship has suffered ever since.
Well, I just found out today from my mother that during the divorce, it was agreed that she would claim the house and he would claim my older sibling and I for tax stuff. And now that I've turned 18, my father cannot claim me anymore and my mother has to sell the house now.
I was devestated that she said that the house has to be sold, this is the house I grew up in, and a firm strong-hold that I am not going to let go of very easily.
Granted this is not the whole story, but I am working on limited information. I will find out the whole story and update for anyone who wishes to help me make it through this, and possibly help me make some hard decisions.
WOW! This is a REALLY hard situation you are in! Talking through this will definately help you! I am curious though, is you mother selling the house ONLY because you are no longer a tax write off for your father? This sounds kinda like a shady situation and someone is forgetting to tell you something.
My parents were divorced when I was 10 (I'm now 22)and my mother got us (all 5 siblings) and my father got the house.
My father does not earn much money, and almost had to sell the house a few times. Seeing the "for sale" sign broke my heart EVERY time, so I know how that feels! He built the house himself. ..the WHOLE thing! And we lived there since I was two years old.
So basically, I sorta know what you are going through. Luckily, my father did not have to sell the house (not yet, at least)and still lives there.
But when you are faced with this situation you have to remember, that although the house holds sentimental value that could NEVER be replaced, life DOES go on. Just try to think that it IS only bricks and wood, and that your family will bring the love from that house into a new house (as it is only a material possession). I know its easy to say, but your family is STILL your family even if you live somewhere new. Maybe the new house will be better in certain aspects and your whole family could grow from this situation. It might just bring you closer together!!! Just remember, a house is just a house, but you can make ANY house into your home!!