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Old 01-29-2005, 08:47 PM   #1
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Question Discipline Issues....Help!!!

This is probably more of a parenting question than a question about Down Syndrome. Sydnee is our wonderful 4 year old daughter. Well, she is wonderful most of the time.

Sydnee is very much a "daddy's" girl. She loves to hang out with dad, have daddy dress her, have daddy bathe her, have daddy read books, have daddy make her meals, do you see the pattern? If daddy is around, Sydnee won't allow anyone else to do things for her. Infact when some one tries to help, Sydnee makes comments like "Daddy do it"?, or "Go away Mommy". This is when she isn't "Wonderful".

Daddy has traveled out of town several times recently, and Sydnee does allow mommy to take care of her, and even asks for mommy. Tonight when she was particularly hurtful, I sat her down and tried to tell her how she made mommy feel. I'm not sure she understood.

Does anyone have ideas that would help us teach Sydnee to allow mommy to help take care of her?

 
Old 02-02-2005, 05:46 PM   #2
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Re: Discipline Issues....Help!!!

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Originally Posted by Smilin_Chad
This is probably more of a parenting question than a question about Down Syndrome. Sydnee is our wonderful 4 year old daughter. Well, she is wonderful most of the time.

Sydnee is very much a "daddy's" girl. She loves to hang out with dad, have daddy dress her, have daddy bathe her, have daddy read books, have daddy make her meals, do you see the pattern? If daddy is around, Sydnee won't allow anyone else to do things for her. Infact when some one tries to help, Sydnee makes comments like "Daddy do it"?, or "Go away Mommy". This is when she isn't "Wonderful".

Daddy has traveled out of town several times recently, and Sydnee does allow mommy to take care of her, and even asks for mommy. Tonight when she was particularly hurtful, I sat her down and tried to tell her how she made mommy feel. I'm not sure she understood.

Does anyone have ideas that would help us teach Sydnee to allow mommy to help take care of her?
Kids at that age are not developmentally able to understand or empathize with others. At her age you tell her how things are supposed to be. For instance, Mommies are supposed to take care of girls, and daddies are supposed to take care of boys. You can deal with politically correct issues when she is old enough to reason with. Children at 4 years of age should not be in charge of choices that are more complex than what color they want to color in a coloring book, or what color socks they want to wear on a casual day. She can not deal with how you feel because she is too busy establishing how she feels. Give her structure and security by being truly in charge of the important decisions. She will respect your firmness and respond positively to the security of knowing she does not get to make a choice between mommy and daddy.

 
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