Re: missing pinky bone - soft marker?
Personally i think this is a very personal, and difficult decison for you to make and you have to come to a conclusion about it because of what feels right for -you-.
How much stress do you feel that not knowing will put you under? if the answer to this is "alot" or "more than i could cope with" then I think it would be in your best intrests.
However you also have to consider why you were against the test in the first place? Do those reasons still stand?
Try to take a step back and veiw this situation objectivily, if you bestfriend came to you with this issue what would you advise? (although i apperciate how difficult that is)
I hope that some of this advice has been helpful, i have never been a mother and am only 17, although i have a brother who has DS so i cannot fully apperciate what you are going to. But i empathsize.
I hope tyhe remainder of your pregnancy goes well. Take care of yourself and your baby xx