I reposted LisaMP's Guide yesterday.
As far as pain management. My son was 3 when he had his out, 3 months ago. Plain tylenol and anti-biotics was all he took orally. During the period where his ears began to pain him... we used Octicaine ear drops. These are non-systemic lydocaine based ear drops and require a prescription from your doctor. They helped tremendously with the ear and jaw pain during the de-scabbing (?I think I just made up a word

) process. Anyway, you can try tylenol and these ear drops, but don't turn down the heavy stuff; when those scabs start coming of you will be in for a rough ride.
Good Luck. I will be having my own T&A in October as well... with a bonus endoscopic sinus window insertion in all of my sinus cavities. I hope that the sinus window insertion is a walk in the park compared to the T&A.
Respectfully Yours,
MG