I really need help - Eating Disorder Recovery Message Board

mickeypluto123 · 03-01-2005, 07:12 PM

I am posting this about a girl I work with, she has lost 20 pounds in this past month and was very skinny to start with. Everyone I work with is worried about her. One of her friends works with us and we talked to her and she said she has talked to her, and she also thinks that her mom would not do anything. SHe barely eats and when she does she all of a sudden has to go into the bathroom and is usually in there for a while. We really do not know how to confront her and we dont want to make her mad. But we are all really worried about her. We discussed telling our boss (his daughter goes to school with her, and my boss knew her before she started working), but we fealt that is she found out we told him she would get mad. We dont know what to do, any suggestions would be helpful...

cryingskies · 03-01-2005, 11:11 PM

hey. I know what ur friend would think and feel...so I can give you an outside perspecitive. Dont tell your boss...she really would be furious if she found out. It would kill her. Also each and every friend or co worker or has a concern deserves to be able to tell the friend the with problem but dont go as a group...its like being ganged up on, you feel completely helpless and it makes u really upset and really mad once u can go home away from everyone....it made me quit talking to all of my friends, i got so mad. You all should talk to her, but I think you all need to do it one at a time one on one with your friend...It gives you more of a chance to be fully heard and her to not feel so attacked...Dont all gang up on her together...But if you really feel she has a problem, then you definately need to let her know that you guys know and want to help her. Dont yell at her, you know if she really is bulimic she cant control it. it does control you. You have to try to understand that. Dont yell at her, she will become defensive and she will push you out. You have to be open and supportive