Has anyone here ever got past an eating disorder (anorexia) without going to a doctor, or having professional help? And if you have, what kinds of stuff did you do to get past it and become healthy again.
i know of one gurl who came across bulimia with no help..shes way way older than me, so i wouldnt really know. but thats what my mom says..i think its impossible to make it thru alone, but there are really strong ppl out there!
troubled, are you just wondering out of curiousity or because you want justification that you don't need to get help because you can do it on your own? (btw, i DO NOT mean this to sound harsh, i just want to know what you're asking exactly)
I'm wondering because I just can't tell my parents about it, and I was wondering if anyone had success in doing it on their own, so that I could just try to do it on my own instead of getting my parents and family involved. I've been trying to overcome it for a long time now, but I think that before I never REALLY wanted to overcome it, but now I do.. because I don't want to get sick, and I don't want to die.. but I just can't bring myself to tell my parents...at least not now
hey Troubled. i feel ya. a lot of people around here have had a lot of success with professional help, but it's not the be all end all solution. i mean, a professional can only do so much but in the end it's gotta come down to you.
personally i have a phobia of professionals (this is my first time mentioning that). i won't get into my experiences with them because i don't want to scare off anyone who might be considering it. i think it's good for most people, but i kinda squirm every time someone around here tells me i should talk to a professional as i've had some pretty horrific experiences with them (but don't worry girls -- i think the vast majority of professionals ARE helpful... just not mine)... so i guess in some cases you have to go it alone. still, just because the help isn't coming from a paid professional, it IS good just to have someone you trust that you can talk to.
you're a smart girl, Troubled. you WILL overcome this thing, and if you don't think a pro is a valid option, then i'm gonna go against the grain here and say i support your decision, as long as you realize it's not an excuse not to keep trying to get better. put those smarts of yours to task. research. analyze. do everything you can to understand your problem and your triggers. after all, a shrink's job isn't to force you to eat -- it's to help you do exactly what i just said.
I have gotten Zero help out of professionals, even those that are eating disorder specialists. All they ever want to do is send me to a nutritionist and keep a food journal. I could do that on my own. If the therpaist was actually bulimic in the past, and knew what I went through first hard, that would be different, but I have never come across any therpaist that had actual experience with an eating disorder. I think having a good support team around you, family, friends, ect is just as much help, unless you are seriously ill and need medical attention.
my shrink hasn't had an eating disorder and I find him extremely helpful. I do have to keep a food journal, and I do have to see a nutritionist but I also do a lot of indepth talking with him and working on various imagery exercises, a variety of therapeutic interventions, and well all sorts of things. I had a couple other shrinks before him that were just horrible, not helpful, in fact things got worse. My current shrink is pretty no nonsense but I had tried for years to get it resolved by myself to no avail. I know if I was going I would be starving, restricted, and throwing up whatever little tidbit I allowed myself to eat so going to therapy for me is a VERY GOOD thing.
there are a lot of counselors/therapists out there who have had or do have eating disorders, I am one of them, but what we realize is that it isn't always a good thing to work with clients who you may trigger or who may trigger you back. So I choose to not work with any eating disordered patients because it is not fair to them and it is not fair to me....does that make sense?
I just don't know what to do... I feel like I can't tell my mom.. sometimes I talk to her about stuff in general, and I try to hint things to her that things aren't going okay with me and that I'm anorexic or something, but.. she never seems to get the message. I guess I can't expect her to know exactly what I'm thinking and feeling without me saying anything.
Today I had 700 calories, and lately i've only been having 300-450 calories.. So I guess I'm doing okay sort of.. on improving I mean.. hopefully I can increase my calories until I get to a healthy amount, but.. its so hard, and I find myself just wanting to starve myself ... it feels like I'm eating so much food though.. it makes me feel sick sometimes and I just wanna throw up. And it seems that even though Ive been eating way too less calories its like, when I started eating more I gained some weight.. but how is that possible? id unno.. its just happening kind of fast, and I don't want this weight gain to discourage me from being healthy.
that really is normal because your body will hang onto every single morsel you give it, you could retain water, all kinds of stuff. 700 calories is great so much better than what you ate before. GOOD FOR YOU!!!! I used to eat less than 400 a day I am now up to 930 it has taken a long time to get there without throwing it back up and I couldn't have done it without help justs because I have had ED for 30 years....way too long. I wish you well in your endeavor - is there anyone else in your family you could talk to and get some support?
im pretty much in the same situation that you are, troubled. im trying to recover without professional help, and without telling anyone in my family about my problem. im actually doing quite well. i dunno, it just seems like one day a light bulb snapped on and i realized that i was eating too little, and i was underweight, and i could DIE from those factors. so, i began eating a bit more each day, and now i eat pretty normally. sure, i still worry sometimes about eating too much fattening food, but i do eat about 1650 or more calories a day. i just keep reminding myself that i need to eat atleast 1200 calories for me to survive and function properly. do you still get your monthly period? i dont, and if you dont, you can try telling yourself (as i do) that its DEFINITELY okay for your to eat as much as you want until you atleast start getting your periods again.i think i read somewhere on this board that if you dont get your period, then your body isnt producing enough hormones, which means you cant absorb calcium properly..and if your body cant use the calcium you ingest, it starts taking it from your bones. im terrified of suffering from bone loss, so i eat in hopes of seeing my period return.
if you dont mind me asking,are you underweight, or normal weight, or what? im still quite a bit underweight, so every day i remind myself that its OKAY for me to eat normally, ATLEAST until i achieve a healthy weight. whenever i get hungry, i tell myself that i had starved my body for way too long, and now i simply OWE it to myself to eat.
also, when i first started increasing my calories, it seemed like it took so little food to gain weight, and that freaked me out, too. however, once you make eating normally a part of your daily life, everything will normalize and youll probably either maintain your weight or gain weight very, VERY slowly. just try to eat normally for a few weeks, and after that time, you should start to see that you can eat a normal amount of calories without gaining an ounce. its okay to be scared, i was terrified when i first began increasing my calories. i hope your situation will be like mine, and, with time, you'll learn to not worry about eating a healthy amount of calories. just get past those first few weeks (although it may be a longer or shorter time for you, as everyone's different) and things will hopefully be much easier after that. however, refeeding might not make our EDs go away forever because in order to really cure them, most people think that the emotional and psycological issues that caused them to start must be addressed and corrected.
i dunno..i havent had a long term recovery, but things seem to be going well so far. only time will tell. be strong. i believe in you, and i know you will be able to overcome this disease if you put your mind to it. remember, only you can take control of your life and change it for the better.
i know this was soo long, but i just couldnt stop myself from rambling..i hope i atleast answered your question.
I'm a little underweight. I weigh about 105lbs and i'm 5'5". I've lost 30 lbs since April... I've only been anorexic for about 6 months though. The wake up call for me that I had to change was when my band director asked me if I was bulimic, and when people kept asking my dad if I was sick.
I haven't had my period for 2 months...will that come back? And if so.. how long?... I haven't really talked about it that much.. but it kind of scared me when I lost my period. I mean, I don't want to get sick or die, but.. I don't want to be fat either.
A big part of me still thinks that I'm fat, and that I need to continue doing this and lose more weight, but.. I'm trying to overcome it.. its really hard, especially considering that no one really knows about my problem except for 2 friends, and they don't understand.. and I kind of just tell them that things are better now and they don't really tlak about it anymore. It's really hard being on my own and doing this, but I can't tell my parents.. I'm supposed to be the perfect child, and I can't just ruin that vision of me in their minds.. and I can't put them through that. maybe I should try to takl to a friend more.. but... I just don't want to worry anyone.. ya know? Eating is so hard for me.. I hate eating.. and I know this is bad, but I've started cutting again... its like, whenever i eat more I feel like I have to cut myself, but whne I starve myself then its okay.. Its just.. I'm really messed up I guess.. I'm just hoping that this will go away soon...
Why do I see myself as fat? I honestly believe that I am fat.. I mean, i guess the scale doesn't lie.. but .. I most certainly do not feel underweight.. I feel fat, and ugly and.. just not very good about myself...
well, for starters, i think that your period will come back once you regain a healthy weight.
you're not "really messed up", i understand how you feel. sometimes, i get these urges to cut, too. i just do my best to fight them away.
yea, i dont feel underweight either. but everyone else i know keeps telling me that i am, and i just have to take their word for it. true, the scale doesnt lie. so trust it. when it tells you that you are underweight, you are underweight. we both seem to have distorted body images. i didnt think that distorted body images really existed until i thought to myself, "if im so digustingly fat, then WHY am i trying to hide my thinness from other people??". its like,the logical side of my brain KNOWS im underweight, while the other side sees me as a fat pig.
try to start eating lotsa small snacks/meals throughout the day, whenever you get hungry. you need to slowly increase your calories. and, like i said, for a while it'll seem like a darn apple will make you gain half a pound, but over time, everything will stablize and youll be able to eat a healthy amount of calories and simply remain your weight. you're not deathly underweight, but being underweight at any level is dangerous to your health. use your period as a guide- once you see it, it means that your in a healthy physical condition again.
things will get easier as they go on. just hold your head up high and keep moving forward. "what saves a man is to take a step. then another step. it is always the same step, but you have to take it". i believe in you! you are NOT fat, and im sure you are NOT ugly. you're a beautiful, unique person, unlike anyone else. you have your own special reason for living. always remember that.