3 Meals a day - Eating Disorder Recovery Message Board

kittywitty · 07-26-2006, 10:59 AM

I'm really struggling right now. Every time I try to eat three meals a day (which is extremely rare these days), I end up feeling fat. How can I get past this and eat normally (whatever that is)? My husband is very upset that I don't eat enough, but I just can't bring myself to do it. Please help.

honeybeez · 07-26-2006, 11:49 AM

Hello kittywitty

nice name btw...

Is there any reason why you feel fat? i bet your husband doesnt say you are fat

Is he giving you lots of postitve comments and encouragement? if not tell him thats what you need to get through this..

Take things as slow as you can.. Maybe add a little more food each day.. Sometimes i find it easier to eat in front of the telly or while on on the phone or doing something... that way you are not concentrating on the food.

Is there any help you can get with your eating? Do you tend to eat in front of people?

take care x

trinidadienne · 07-26-2006, 01:09 PM

Hi, it may be of little use for me to talk about loving/valuing yourself and deserving food (I'm sure you've heard it all before). But from a weight/fat and just biological point of view, may be you could read up a bit about metabolism. It is the key to weight control. Anthony Ellis (I think I'm allowed to mention names?) talks a lot about metabolism though his big thing is muscle gain but you can find him through google and rummage through his stuff till you find what might make you feel better. You may find that eating less doesn't mean less fat, perhaps quite the contrary. I am so thin!! It drives my husband crazy but I eat more than him and am breast feeding my 3 month old. I'm active and use my muscles all day but I have a very high metabolism, little fat and am always hungry. I love to eat but I eat as most naturally as I can - ie - avoid the cartons and boxes but I do love the yummy stuff as well once in a while (I've just eaten a magnum). You'll get there, don't beat yourself up if it takes time, but don't put your body through too much abuse in the mean while. Good luck!

paulbpc · 07-26-2006, 04:32 PM

Getting exercise is key to not feeling fat. It makes you feel like you're fueling your body as opposed to just stuffing it. Eating small amounts frequently is also a great idea. You will be able to control your weight and both of these solutions will keep your energy up and keep your metabolism fast. Increase your food intake slowly- this way you won't feel fat and you also won't notice the weight gain as easily. If you try to pile it on too fast you will get scared and restrict again. No one can expect you to eat "normally" right away.

kittywitty · 07-28-2006, 10:30 AM

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