How can I help her? - Eating Disorder Recovery Message Board

LilMissAmy · 11-15-2000, 04:50 PM

Hi People, I need some help, you see my cousin and good friend has an eating disorder a form of bullemia. she is getting thinner and thinner and I don't know what to do. Her parents are useless and are partly to blame. What are some ideas on good ways to help her like what things scared you guys or made you think about what your doing to your body?

I want her to beat this but where to start?

Marie · 11-17-2000, 06:01 PM

Hi Lilmiss Amy,

Well, I'll tell you right now, scaring her will most likely make it worse. She probably realizes what she's doing is not healthy. When a respectable doc told me what could happen, I was like, "Oh really? Well then watch me. Watch me get worse." That's the whole point of an ED. You CAN"T do anything about it. It's up to her. Her way of dealing w/ life is bulimia. My best suggestion is NEVER leave her. When I started to lose weight my friends got jealous, and then annoyed at the attn. I got. Well, they stopped being around me and that made it worse. She needs friends. When she knows she can trust you and depend on you and others, she'll slowly get better. Support is the biggest issue.

LilMissAmy · 11-20-2000, 11:01 PM

Hey Marie, thanx. It's hard always watching what I say. Today her dog died! Things just seem to get worse. Last night her brother went physco at her because she used his last rolling paper. I think your right about the support factor if she can't rely on her immediate family it'll have to be me. But I am presently living across the road from her and on the weekend I am moving furthur away I hope this doesn't cause problems for her!