please help. anorexic boyfriend?
i am in need of some advice. i think that my boyfriend may be anorexic. he claims that he is not but he certainly does exhibit anorexic-like symptoms. these include: poor self esteem, negative body image/appearance, bouts of depression, unusually large quantity of shedding hair (though maybe due to thick curly hairtype?), perfectionist tendencies/school performance, and fatigue. i rarely see him eat, and when he does he will usually eat soup or on occasion a muffin (but never in front of me). the only time i ever witness him eat solid food is when we are at his home with his family for dinner, as his mother had threatened to hospitalize him if he refused food. but the portions he serves himself are always significantly smaller than everyone elses. i am not sure if these are significant signs of an eating disorder especially because he doesnt seem to be so preoccupied with weight that he cannot take in such high calorie drinks as alcohol or milk shakes. yet, wouldnt a typical anorexic be more likely to eat healthy food and calorie count? nor does he seem to have any food rituals. also, he doesnt really exercise routinely, but he does walk obscenely great distances and refuses to take any sort of public transportations even in the coldest conditions. despite such practices, he doesnt appear to be underweight, he actually seems quite average. he even expressed to me once that he feels fat. i am so concerned. i love him so much and i want him to be happy and healthy. does he have an eating disorder? it is hard for me to confront him about it, i am not sure if that is even the best thing to do. i dont know if i would be helping or hurting, and i know he gets a lot of **** from his his family and friends for not eating, i dont want to be another source of strain. what should i do? how can i help. thank you so much for any advice.
Last edited by blue712; 02-05-2008 at 01:24 AM.