new to this: I'm a boyfriend in need of help
Iím in a long-distance relationship with a girl who has ED. She has been fighting it b4 we started dating, and was doing well until recently. Recently she has been relapsing, and I started noticing this immediately by the way she was slowly losing more and more of the girl I love. She started because she doesnít have any professional help nearby her school. Recently she told me that she needs more time to herself to work through this, and she wanted to break up, saying that she wasnít being fair to me. I said that would hurt me the most and suggested that we take a break, still committed just I donít try to contact her at all. When I mentioned how much the breakup would hurt me she seemed hurt and didnít seem to want that as much. Her therapist also told me that I should disconnect with her, because the more I hold on the more sheíll disconnect from me. Am I doing the right thing? I love her, and she says that she loves me and I believe it, but am I holding her back? I just want her to be happy, even if that doesnít involve me. And it just hurts that I cant help and support the person I love. Am I doing the right thing 4 her by giving her space but still loving her and waiting 4 her? Any advice would be apprecaited.
Last edited by 4myheart; 02-02-2011 at 06:02 PM.