Originally Posted by Tom t
As it turns out she is bulimic....She would only admit it after I told her that I heard her and I just know that she is doing it.
However, I also said that she needs to go get professional help due to this being to big for us to deal with and I need it to be able to stay in the relationship. She did not like that and thinks she can stop on her own. She said she started as a teen and stopped for 20 years and she can do it again. I have been through enough in my life to know its not that easy.
I feel so sad for her...It must be so hard to deal with. She also tried to turn the conversation on to what I did wrong and that was hard to take but I know its the disease talking. What is the recovery rate on this disease? She to me sounds like she is in denial. How does one come out of that?
I'm glad that she admitted having bulimia,even though she was placed in a position that left her little choice.I only say this because you confronted her,not vice versa.
When suggesting that she seek therapy,try treading lightly and suggest things.
Remember this is an extremely sensitive subject and she may feel(in a certain way)that you invaded her privacy.
Eating disorders carry with it disordered thinking. If she feels
that you are trying to force her,then she may retreat.
If she tries to turn the tides on you,it's in response to this and the aforementioned info.
The recovery rate increases,when therapeutic intervention is introduced in the early stages of the eating disorder.
She must be the one to make the move towards therapy,if she is so inclined.
The dynamic isn't easy;please exercise patience.