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Old 11-02-2012, 09:35 PM   #1
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18 year old girl with weight issues... need advice

I am a 6'2" and I currently weigh about 156 pounds. I've lost almost nine pounds. Is 1700-1800 calories too strong of a deficit? I should also add that I started out at 165. I am a type 1 diabetic and I work out about 6 days a week. I work out about 6 days a week, 30 minutes on cardio days and about an hour on strength training days (every other day). I have recently tried to eat 1500-1600 calories a day. My self-esteem has actually gone down because I look at the girls around me who eat more and way unhealthier than I do and don't gain a pound (I used to be like this before I stopped growing) and I feel increasingly frustrated as I realize that my body can't do that anymore. I also try and allow myself to ahve 1-3 cheat meals a week that'll usually be something like a slice of pizza, or a non-whole grain bagel, or a slice of cake. But even if I plan for these meals, I feel so guilty afterwards. Once, I even had to excuse myself and go cry in the bathroom because I felt so guilty that I was going to gain back all I had lost and bring myself backwards. It's gotten to the point where I can't eat a food without knowing how many calories are in it. I can't even begin to consume a meal without knowing how much I'm eating. Am I eating enough calories? And how do I get over this guilt? I know I'm mentally not in the right plave anymore, but I'm just so scared of gaining back all the weight after all the hard work I've done.

 
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Old 11-17-2012, 07:45 PM   #2
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Re: 18 year old girl with weight issues... need advice

bump, can anyone help?

 
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Old 11-19-2012, 04:06 AM   #3
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Re: 18 year old girl with weight issues... need advice

First off, a lot of these girls who eat like this in public a) eat nothing in private [I was one of these girls for years, so I know what I'm talking about] or b) are bulimics [I did that too].

Second, yeah, some folks are naturally thinner than others-which doesn't mean you should stop trying to get to your goal weight, if the process is a satisfying one to you, but it DOES mean-this is just my opinion-you are never going to be as thin as some women are in the world. However, let me ask you this-are you trying to be the thinnest around you? Because that was my mindset when I headed toward my anorexic phase of my eating disorder process, and lemme tell you, where I got was nowhere worth being.
Fast.
The truth is you are never going to look the way perhaps you were told you ought to look growing up; none of us are likely to ever please our mothers or look naturally the way others on the covers of magazines somehow seem to manage [which is what happens when you can afford to hire someone to cook for you, a personal trainer, a stylist and a makeup artist. For the rest of us, however....].
HOWEVER-if you eat in a way that causes you to feel strong, confident, grateful to yourself and even beautiful most days-that's all that really matters.
The way I think of it is this: I can starve myself trying to get down to an image that's been manufactured with the deliberate intent to cause me to feel bad about myself so I buy diet crap I don't need to be healthy, OR I can go run a marathon. Or go back to school and become a pediatrician or jump a six foot course [if you're me] or swim a 400 meter butterfly [which is, to me, pretty ******' impressive].
Does that help?

 
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Old 11-19-2012, 04:08 AM   #4
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Re: 18 year old girl with weight issues... need advice

First off, a lot of these girls who eat like this in public a) eat nothing in private [I was one of these girls for years, so I know what I'm talking about] or b) are bulimics [I did that too].

Second, yeah, some folks are naturally thinner than others-which doesn't mean you should stop trying to get to your goal weight, if the process is a satisfying one to you, but it DOES mean-this is just my opinion-you are never going to be as thin as some women are in the world. However, let me ask you this-are you trying to be the thinnest around you? Because that was my mindset when I headed toward my anorexic phase of my eating disorder process, and lemme tell you, where I got was nowhere worth being.
Fast.
The truth is you are never going to look the way perhaps you were told you ought to look growing up; none of us are likely to ever please our mothers or look naturally the way others on the covers of magazines somehow seem to manage [which is what happens when you can afford to hire someone to cook for you, a personal trainer, a stylist and a makeup artist. For the rest of us, however....].
HOWEVER-if you eat in a way that causes you to feel strong, confident, grateful to yourself and even beautiful most days-that's all that really matters.
The way I think of it is this: I can starve myself trying to get down to an image that's been manufactured with the deliberate intent to cause me to feel bad about myself so I buy diet crap I don't need to be healthy, OR I can go run a marathon. Or go back to school and become a pediatrician or jump a six foot course [if you're me] or swim a 400 meter butterfly [which is, to me, pretty ******' impressive].
Does that help?

 
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