Re: 18 year old girl with weight issues... need advice
First off, a lot of these girls who eat like this in public a) eat nothing in private [I was one of these girls for years, so I know what I'm talking about] or b) are bulimics [I did that too].
Second, yeah, some folks are naturally thinner than others-which doesn't mean you should stop trying to get to your goal weight, if the process is a satisfying one to you, but it DOES mean-this is just my opinion-you are never going to be as thin as some women are in the world. However, let me ask you this-are you trying to be the thinnest around you? Because that was my mindset when I headed toward my anorexic phase of my eating disorder process, and lemme tell you, where I got was nowhere worth being.
The truth is you are never going to look the way perhaps you were told you ought to look growing up; none of us are likely to ever please our mothers or look naturally the way others on the covers of magazines somehow seem to manage [which is what happens when you can afford to hire someone to cook for you, a personal trainer, a stylist and a makeup artist. For the rest of us, however....].
HOWEVER-if you eat in a way that causes you to feel strong, confident, grateful to yourself and even beautiful most days-that's all that really matters.
The way I think of it is this: I can starve myself trying to get down to an image that's been manufactured with the deliberate intent to cause me to feel bad about myself so I buy diet crap I don't need to be healthy, OR I can go run a marathon. Or go back to school and become a pediatrician or jump a six foot course [if you're me] or swim a 400 meter butterfly [which is, to me, pretty ******' impressive].
Does that help?