Re: Husband has eating disorder
I'm in recovery from anorexia and bulimia and I can remember how hard it was telling other people.
Maybe, suggest that he write you a letter? That way, he will have time to organize his thoughts. Or something that is not face to face like a phone call.
If he has bulimia, it's so hard to focus and be mentally "still" without doing something or saying something impulsive.
Do your research on the disorder. Full recovery can take anywhere from 5-10 YEARS. There will be relapses and minor setbacks.
People with eating disorders can also go from one eating disorder to another. For example, he can go from bulimia to anorexia or to binge eating disorder during recovery.
He is going to need a TEAM of professionals to help him recover: doctors, specialists, therapists etc.. There are people who never recover and get stuck in disordered eating patterns-that is not real recovery. He needs a team that specializes in eating disorders.
When you have an eating disorder, it is so hard to separate your thoughts from the eating disordered thoughts. He may not be able to give you the insight or answers. A lot of people will say the ed gives them a feeling of "control" helps them feel emotionally numb.
If he is not ready to talk to you about it, then encourage him to find outside support. I joined an online support group and then I entered treatment. You could help him find some online support groups until he decides what to do.
If you need any other suggestion, i'm always lurking these boards.