Serious Side Effect Of Having Seizures... - Epilepsy Message Board

IJUSTWANNANO · 08-24-2006, 05:41 PM

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neurowreck · 08-24-2006, 05:58 PM

If I met someone, I'd tell them asap= weed out the trash before things go any farther- a real loving relationship will take the e and all....and they need to know what to do if something should happen when you're together. But mostly, weed out those who aren't going to be supportive when they find out.

aunti2egl · 08-25-2006, 06:22 AM

IJUSTWANNANO....I totally understand how you feel. Yes it has happened to me. I went undiagnosed for years (possibly having them since I was 19 or even as a child, we're not sure), after I divorced my hub, it took me 6 LONGGGG years to be at a place where I was ready to date, my ex did a number on me. About the same time I was diagnosed, I started dating.....and yes, I told ppl pretty fast, I had a lot of them 'run' out, they couldn't deal with it. I was lucky enough to find 2 different guys who were 'ok' with it, I even had a couple of seizures in front of them, mine are pretty much controlled with my meds, so they were none the wiser, I told them afterwards that I had had one, because I didn't want to scare them.....when eventually the time came where we broke up, it wasn't a seizure thing, totally unrelated....But I understand SO MUCH how you feel. I have recently moved and sadly I don't even want to think about dating.......having to go thru it all over again. I'm exhausted, the meds take a lot out, and my memory is SO not what it used to be....But yeh, eventually I'd like to find that special man and marry (again).....and

hopefully have at least one child. It's always been my dream to have children, and I hope those dreams haven't been dashed by my seizures.....I'm no spring chicken (36), so I'd like at least within the next 4 yrs or so to have kids.
All I can tell you is IF that person doesn't want to be with you because of your seizures, they aren't worth being with. Simple as that, you deserve better. Just because we have seizures doesn't mean we've got the plaque and they'll catch it. Your nurse friend should've known better, total ignorance, I'm sorry. Well I've rambled enough. I hope I was of some help.

valeriedl · 08-27-2006, 08:05 PM

I also had broken up with my ex about six months after my sezs started about 5 years ago. The relationship sort of dwindled off (he lived about an hour away, we didn't get to see each other other than weekends). The best part about the whole thing was that I didn't remember being with him at all! So it didn't end up being alot of stress on me.

The guy I'm with now is great! I met him at a concert that I went to with my mom. I let him know everything on the first date (about the sez, I couldn't drive, couldn't have kids and that sort of thing) so that there were no suprises, and if I wasn't going to be something that he was looking for then we weren't wasting our time.

We have been together for a little over two years and even ended up moving in together (he put me on his insurance to save me alot of money). He's been there for me in some type of way for every sez. Takes me to dr visits when he can, and get's mad when he has to work and can't go too. My parents were afraid that he was going to leave me when I had my first sez with him, but he's been there through it all now.

It took me three years to meet him, and he just happened to come along when I wasn't really looking. I know you said that you don't go out much, but maybe you could try. Go out with friends to local events, or even with your parents (who I hang out with a lot). I don't know what your situation is, if you have family in your area and people that are able to get you out in public again, but it can't hurt to try. Like I said, when you aren't looking, something good might roll around the bend!

IJUSTWANNANO · 08-27-2006, 10:30 PM

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