an excuse,or a reason??? - Epilepsy Message Board

pert · 03-15-2001, 06:29 PM

hi everyone.
i was dating a epileptic man age 55.
he had hot and cold tendencies.
he would go for weeks or months being kind and loyal,then completely be rude and nasty to me w/no warning.
its as if he lacked trust in me

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coconut · 04-10-2001, 11:37 PM

sorry to hear about that pert.
you may know how these medications can have some awful side effects sometimes, that affect a wide range of emotions.

Also, those of us with temporal lobe epilepsy are inclined to be more emotional and sometimes temperamental.
Back to medications, some cause emotional 'lability'..where people feel neither anger, happiness, sadness, just almost nothing. Other meds cause agression, some anxiety and panic.
So, perhaps, he never even meant to treat you badly at all. Meds have affected me every way described above over a period of 16 years, since I've taken over 12 AEDs during that time. It is hard on family and friends, for sure.
Best wishes.

pert · 04-11-2001, 12:32 PM

yes it sure is.as a matter of fact i've had to detach.
i cannot convince him how he hurts me emotionally.
he's in denial.
supposedly he has bipolar assoc.w/the epilepsy.
can anyone elaborate on mental illness assoc.w/this disease ?

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letuce live in peace

Dilan-man · 04-12-2001, 05:06 PM

Let me try to explain somthing to you that might be a factor in his treating you poorly at times . Iam about the same age and I too treat my wife with less respect than she deserves .During our marrige she has stood by me thru thick and thin an yet there are times when it seems the reality of my epelepsy gets the best of me and I have a little pity party . This is when I seem to treat people around me poorly .I would sudjest asking him why ?? . I hope this helps .

pert · 04-12-2001, 05:11 PM

thanks so much for the responses!

dilan,
i have not yet been able to communicate with him on these issues because he's in such denial.
its as if he isn't aware of how he affects me.
perhaps he was from dysfunction also.

its gotten so bad that now i have to remove myself.

i wish there had been a better way.