Lisa
I was thinking about your question, and here's my thoughts. As Jake gets older, don't ever conceal or let him conceal his condition. I did that myself for years! Why? because I was ashamed of it, I thought acquaintances would think less of me, think I was less intelligent than I am, think I was weird. It is so liberating to be open about it. As I said in an earlier post, I told my new colleagues at work about it, and guess what? I wasn't fired, or treated different. I got a few "really? you!" responses. I guess I didn't seem mentally handicapped enough!
However it is so relaxing to not have to worry about their response if I were to have a sz at work, I won't have explaining to do after I scared the hell out of them. The only way we can change societies attitude is one person at a time understanding what the condition is. Educate his friends and teachers when the time comes. Years ago the Epilepsy Foundation had a public service announcement about epilepsy and it ended with "epilepsy, it's not what you think it is". Children can be cruel, however they also mirror the attitudes they see around them, when Jake is older and his friends see a sz and observe how you and he respond to it, it won't be a big deal to them. There are many chronic condiitions, diabetes, learning disabilities, asthma, why don't people feel shame about these? I think largely it has to do with OLD attitudes that have hung on, and the neurologic component involved. I said it before, Jake is a lucky little boy to have such a great family, he'll do fine with such a strong support system.
Oh, and lastly, there will always be small minded asses out there, they have the condition to be ashamed of!!
Grand Mals! 
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