Hey Lisa!
I'm SURE you are doing a wonderful job with Jenny! You are obviously a great mother and very supportive to both kids, and do whatever it takes to make them feel better.
I had a grand mal when I was 15, I also had complex partial seizures as well but didn't know what they were. This was back in 1986. I KNEW that something was wrong with me in regards to the complex partial's, but had no idea what they were, and you are so self conscious at that age anyway. I tried to explain them to my neurologist, but he chalked it up to puberty, teenage years, etc, even though I KNEW that it was more than that. He told my parents the same thing, and that's what they assumed it was too because this was coming from a doctor. He told them that you can have a grand mal once, and never had one again, so they thought nothing else was wrong.
I don't blame them for anything, but after all the problems I have gone through the past few months, my mother told me she feels so bad because they maybe could have done something different back then. The only thing I wish is that they would have taken me to a different neurologist when I kept saying that something was wrong with me and had been better able to understand that. But, they took the doctor's advice and just thought it was part of growing up. I was more upset with the doctor for not looking more into it. But, the point is I'm getting taken care of now, and I don't blame anyone, I'm just glad I'm getting them under control now.
Anyway, that's all the words of wisdom I have! Just wanted to share that with you.
Hugs to you,
Amy