Re: my boyfriend is addicted to crack what can i do?
I know what it is like to love someone. Sometimes we can be so blinded by love that we forget that a relationship needs to be a meeting of the minds a well as the heart. Boyfriend and you might have a strong connection romantically, but the minds are very far apart. If the minds are not together, the hearts will quickly fall apart also. This is not what we want in a relationship that might lead to marriage and children!
There is no firm commitment between you and the time to get out of this relationship is now, while the going can be done fairly easily. You are inversting your time and love and thoughts into a man who is in no position to do the sme for you. This is a pretty lopsided and unhealthy relationship.
I know that if it were your sister or good friend telling you the story you are telling here, you would surely tell them to run for the hills s fast as they could. You would tell them they are worth much more than this kind of relationship with a man who has serious, serious problems that only he can change.
Real love, the truest love, is based on accepting the partner as they are wholly and fully and wanting them as they are, not in a changed version. Can you accept a drug addict fully and wholly? Do you want a drug addict as a life mate and soul partner? Will he be a dependable husband and father someday? Is he a man you would want your daughter to choose someday as her partner? I hope not to all these things. This should be time in your life of seeking out relationships that make you happy, make you feel good to be in. The relationship you have with Boyfriend sure isn't doing this.
The hurt will pass, Chrys. I believe that the special one will come into your path someday. Someone you will not have to see changes in before staying with him. This is what you deserve in life and have a right to expect.
Wishing you well