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Old 04-18-2011, 07:33 PM   #16
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Re: wife frustrated by un-diagnosed husband

ok i read it all you are like thelma louse. i am 4 days sober and just love ur personalities. i am teaching in NYC this is my 20th year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yipppeeee ya hoooeeeee i got my doctorate degree about 12 years ago in psychology from nyu and have my own practice. i had a bad car accident that lead to multple surgeries , which lead to lots of medsmm which easily lead to addiction see hoew easy was that,, it happens all the time. i will not take any narcs and i am thinking of that pump they can implant. tell me more when u can...dove why are u with men u dont like?

 
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eeewwwhhhhh r u for real yuk

 
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Old 04-18-2011, 07:47 PM   #18
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Re: wife frustrated by un-diagnosed husband

Actually when I originally answered this post it was on the BiPolar board, where I was, because I have bipolar. Then it got moved over here to the addictions board. I don't have any addictions, am actually allergic to alcohol and have never had any, can't even drink OTC cough syrup that has alcohol in it. I divorced my loser alcoholic husband a year and a half ago and he's with his 300lb, wierdo girlfriend, which is fine with me. I'd been with my ex since we were 16, and the day my divorce papers were signed was the happiest day of my life. That's how I got into this discussion, I just followed it over here.

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Norcoguy,

Are you seriously saying that a woman should stay with an alcoholic abusive man and it's her fault he's like that because she's overweight or doesn't dress up enough or put enough makeup on????? Please tell me that you meant that post some other way than the way it sounds.
Should my wife stay with me...Beings im a pill addict? Gee i hope so, i need all the help i can get...I am just amazed reading these posts like this where people are so ready to huck a marriage, Its just not biblical, What constitutes abuse cussing at each other? Tell me a marriage where that hasnt happend.
Look i admit i shouldve kept my mouth shut, i wont get involved on a thread like this again, and i dont wanna dumb it down with anyone.

 
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i stayed and happily i was a crack addict attending nyu getting my doctoate degree if i did nt stop i was out of the house w/ no money nothing i stopped forever my brain was sore i lost memory but finished my degree with the knowledge i could have stayed an addict. my friend said hey instead of snorting coke lets smoke it? yeah nice its called crack my freind

 
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the people we meet here are like shopping in a grocery store the aisle is clean and wide the can are all shiny but all dented some get taken away and some get left on the shelf. thats how life is.dove

 
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run norcoguy. fast as u can! lol.... just kidding. sometimes it is constructive to disagree but as long as we all agree that we each have the right to disagree if we choose. Norco, you can talk about drugs, abuse, the president, viagra, breast implants, who is a bi$@# or anything u wanna talk about on here but never ever ever........say a thing about a woman's weight!

Just trying to make light of the situation and just a little fyi....i also agree about saving a marriage if at all possible and i tried to save mine i really really did, but after 20 years of things going from bad to the absolute worse with hardly no breathing room in between I just couldn't take anymore. and even though i am not "in love" with him anymore, I am still civilized to him and he to me somewhat. After the divorce he definitely altered the physical violence and curbed the drug useage somewhat. I would like to think that I may have done him some sort of favor as he may have overdosed had I kept letting him do it like he was. I don't know. I do know one thing and that is I want me and my kids to live in a peaceful household and not one where they are watching dad throw plates and remote controls at mama because it is considered a normal occurence.

and Norcoguy sometimes it takes a little reminding by us ladies for u men to see we are still awesome. I think we get too comfortable in routines and don't take the time out for the romance and the chemistry like we did at first. :-)

 
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Ohhhhhhh shoot! I try to work on my marriage for 6 hours and this thread turns upside down.....

Narco ....dude seriously? Most of us hotties are disabled...they vowed for better or worse...not the fact that I glam up and drop it low.... im lucky if I can touch my thighs with all the implants ...and you want to pole dance? What ya smoking on Boy?

Hey it wasn't in my vows to wear makeup......love ya narco ...thanks for your horney input...lol

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I honestly think he meant well. just worded some things wrong. and we gotta give him a break, he is in the middle of an all female thread. and who are we kidding ladies, i used to work in a nursing home and one time an old 80 year old man told me he just wanted to have some booty one last time. problem was he couldn't even move he was in such bad shape from strokes. why is sex so important to men? i mean sure it is important but you would think at 80 and half dead you might have a better wish than that? lol

I guess we can't hold it against them for it is their nature to like to look at sexy women and to want their woman sexy. But u are right RSD about the marriage vows it is for better or worse, sickness and health. and somedays we don't care if we are in our nightgowns for the 3rd day in a row. at least we did manage a shower! and who cares, we don't have anywhere to go anyways and if we did we couldn't stay for long or sit anywhere for any amount of time. it is depressing at times but what else can we do?

 
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awwww Come Back Narco....we want you to give it to us...we need a mans opinion......i am glad you had the cashews to post.......

Thanks OG....stay away from the yoo hoo!


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Should my wife stay with me...Beings im a pill addict? Gee i hope so, i need all the help i can get...I am just amazed reading these posts like this where people are so ready to huck a marriage, Its just not biblical, What constitutes abuse cussing at each other? Tell me a marriage where that hasnt happend.
Look i admit i shouldve kept my mouth shut, i wont get involved on a thread like this again, and i dont wanna dumb it down with anyone.
Should your wife stay with you....thats a good question. Do you do anything to help yourself? Do you take any steps whatsoever to conquer your addiction? Nonbiblical huh...I'm a christian and I don't believe in divorce as a rule, which is why I STAYED with my husband for 22 years, even though he was an alcoholic, even though he had 3 different affairs with 3 different women, even after he gave me 5 black eyes, even after he almost made me miscarry my 2nd child because he beat me up so bad.....so yeah I stayed, and I tried. But there's only so much you can do. If a person isn't willing to admit their screwed up and they have a problem and they need help, then you can't help them, it's that simple. I stayed way past the time when I should have left; 22 yrs worth of hell.....Would I recommend to any woman that they stay with a man who has an addiction to drugs or alcohol, who is abusive, verbally or physically, who cheats, NO. It's not your wifes responsibility to get you better, it's your responsibility to get you better.

 
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norco guy

i think your wife is a SAINT-cherish and appreciate her
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