Re: Husband in denial of addiction
Thank you reachout. I just feel so helpless. I've been thinking about going to alanon, I've seen the meetings announced in the paper. Nar-anon seems to fit us more. I am a business owner in the community so I might have to go to one not too close to home. That is part of my problem, I do not want this to become public because of who we are in our community but I can't do this alone anymore. Luckily he is "normal" most of the time. It's those times when he seems to have lost his mind that I get very scared. How long will it last this time? Will he get violent? He's never been violent but you read those news stories of spouses that snap and hurt the family. I think it's those stories that scare me the most!
I realize Percocet and Oxycontin are similar but he is prescribed Perc and not Oxy. That he is buying Oxy really bothers me and that he lies to me when I have proof he is buying it really bothers me. He's big on people not lying to him but he's been lying to us for a very long time.
We are a "yours, mine and ours" family. The kids are all upper teens or in their 20s (and out of the house) with the exception of "ours", who is 12. He gets really annoyed with my husband too, and my husband gets mad at our son for it. In reality our son is having a normal reaction to someone being very annoying. If I can't get my husband to stop, I would at least like to get him to realize how annoying he becomes and to maybe try to control that and accept we will get mad at him when he doesn't stop.
(I saw my original post showed up about an hour after I reposted. Oops. I also can't figure out how to delete that one. Sorry!)