Originally Posted by loulou597
She finally decided, for herself, she would go to inpatient rehabilitation. She made it 24 days and signed herself out AMA. She lied to my sister regarding leaving AMA twice until my sister finally pushed the issue and she came up with another lie to cover the others.
I feel like I have have tried with her, through all this and am finally at an impass. I don't want her in my life. It hurts too much with the lies and false hopes. Am I overreacting? Anyone?
I have been to the same 30 day inpatient rehab twice and each time seemed to bring me closer to where I am now.
When things begin to get "real"
a person does one of two things;runs or faces things.
Somewhere during that inpatient setting,she met a crossroad,if you will and opted for the path most traveled.
The reasons may not be abundantly clear but one thing is obvious;she's riddled with demons.
These demons can manifest themselves as guilt,regret,remourse and a myriad of others.Know that she could be plagued with more than one at a time.
She tried and was unsuccessful but as long as she has breath in her body and even half a will to want better for herself,then there's still hope for her yet.
If it hurts too much then tell her but at least give her the opportunity to either accept or reject what you have to say.
At that point,if she gets defensive,then you've tried.
You will be left with two choices;hate her or love her from a distance.
The love I speak of is of the unconditional variety and it requires being non-judgemental.
No one says it will be easy but it's something worth considering.