Originally Posted by jmor19
we don't live together but we spend around 4 days a week together staying at each others homes.
I found out about 8 months ago that he snorts cocaine. He says he does it mainly at weekends but i know for sure that he uses it during the week also. He says he uses it to give him a buzz when hes out drinking. Everytime he uses it he gets very emotional and opens up his heart.
About 4 months ago after using cocaine he came to me crying saying he needed help and wanted to stop doing it.I found out lots of support networks for him and sent him all the details. He did stop for a short period of time but realised that without cocaine he would have terrible hangovers after a night out drinking...he's now convinced himself that he's better off taking it as he never gets hangovers when he's been out drinking and snorted cocaine.
It's now reaaly starting to affect our relationship.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to handle this? I do love him very much and deep down he is a good man who runs his own buisness and has a loving family. I really don't want to walk out on him but i cannot watch him to continue on this downward slope.
It seems that he has both a cocaine and alcohol addiction.
If he's unwilling to discontinue both,then he will always have a problem.
Trying to convince himself otherwise just further complicates things,as he will generate a multitude of reasons that he doesn't need help.
If you are thinking about a future with him,try laying it all on the line,as it seems that you've tried everything else.
Let him choose....if he still believes that everything is fine and dandy,then he's made his decision clear.
You can't have a productive or satisfying relationship with a person who has two additional mistresses(metaphorically speaking).