Re: my boyfriend is an alcoholic
I did not want you post to go unanswered.
I too went through this, and I feel your pain. Both my parents were alcoholics. Father was a happy drunk, and my mother was a mean drunk. It got ugly, until they both got help. I did not inherit the alcohol love, however my vice is pills. which I am working on.
I also went through this with my wife. A very talented, gifted person, with an incredible spirit and drive. However her crutch is booze. I put up with it early on as we were both young and having fun with friends, vacations, etc. Then after we got married, it got worse.
I had to make a decision. I had to make her choose, me or the booze. Because I was not going to put up with it any longer. I was not going to sit by and watch a person destroy themselves. However, I did say that I would be there 100% with meetings, support. anything. But she had to be on board with it as well. Otherwise, I had enough.
well she chose to get help, and is clean and sober. There were trips along the way, off the wagon so to speak, but we got through it, and we learned about each other, the illness, and how to make it one day at a time so to speak to live a happy and healthy life. I know each case is different. But if you do not want to go this route have you ever heard of AL-ANON? Check them out. Like AA, but help those who have loved ones with a problem. Don't try to fight it alone. Peace!