Re: Some understanding....
Friend, the first thing I would suggest to you is that you attend an Ala-non meeting. You need some live support here! At AlAnon, there will be others in the exact same position as you and who can offer not only comfort, but a lot of wisdom in dealing with someone who is abusing liquor.
I think if I were in your position I would ask myself, "Is it worth giving up my life for his?" I understand the bond of love you have for him. It can make the decision to stay or go a tough one. However, we have to set up boundaries with an alcoholic in order to help. Whatever boundaries we set, we have to be strong enough to truly abide by them. I didn't see any boundaries on your part, just upset with him. He doesn't seem to be paying any real consequences, so why stop? Nagging at him will just give him an excuse to drink more.
I wish you well and really hope you will seek out AlAnon or a social worker who can help guide you. Of course, stay in touch with us here on nthe board also. :-)
With hope and caring