We've just recently admitted within our family that my adult son who does not live with us is an alcoholic and maybe drug abuser. Before coming to that realization, we had planned a family vacation (retirement cruise for my husband). It will be just the 4 of us (parents, daughter and alcoholic son). My son spent a few days visiting my daughter recently and his behavior was rude and self-serving. Rather than trying to be a respectable guest, he chose to bar hop from morning to night, stayed out all night one night without a word to my daughter. He is a binge drinker as well. At any rate, our daughter does not want to be around him, and frankly, neither do we. I've been going to Alanon and I'm doing a lot of studying on alcoholism. Do we just uninvite him? (We are paying the bills, although not picking up his onboard expenses). He paid his airfare to the cruise port. But, really - - - I think it will be a miserable time with him along. I wonder if we should just tough it out, and then afterwards let him know that we want him to be a part of our lives when he is clean and sober and in recovery. Please advise. Thank you.
Last edited by martin33; 06-10-2013 at 03:45 AM.