Hi Cathy, I'm glad you've found the boards here.
But I am sorry that it is under such circumstances. One of the hardest things for me when my dad was diagnosed with colon cancer was to realize that the big decisions would be made by my dad & mom. That they would share the information that my dad wanted shared.
Granted, my mom shared with each of us 4 kids what it was we needed to know -
but truthfully the decisions on treatment were made by my father.
I don't know of an oncologist alive who tells a patient there is no hope. Or even mention the end of life unless they are specifically asked.
Everyone is different. Everyone sees the quality of their life and the end of their life differently.
ALL of us love our parents. We can support them, listen, share in the good & bad news if they choose to share it with us -
Along those lines, maybe you can ask to get a copy of the various tests he'll be having along the way. Does he have a Healthcare Representative? I ask because you didn't mention your mom and I did not want to assume...
You would probably be about my age, 51. And maybe a Daddy's girl like me? Sometimes I think there should be a special club for us daughters who danced on their dad's feet when we were small...
My prayers go out to you and your family - please keep in touch, ok??