I am so sorry to hear about the rough night you had - but I am very glad to hear that your hubby is able to rest now.
That really stinks that hospice didn't send someone over - and to send him to a nursing home does kinda defeat the purpose, but I'm sure they (hospice) wouldn't suggest this unless they felt like it would really help. My dad had horrible stomach pains a few days before he passed, and the nurse couldn't get here for a few hours and told me that although they rather not, if morphine didn't help that maybe I should take him to the hospital - the nurse aid was surprised (she was here with me), but understood that maybe it would've gotten to that point if nobody was here to help me. But the morphine helped and my dad was able to get some rest.
Looking back my dad was getting antsy about a week prior to his passing - we would have him dressed in pj's, he'd fall asleep so I would leave the room and when i'd come back to check him, he'd be completely naked
Or he'd be up trying to get around but not knowing what to do with himself. I didn't think of these as signs that his time was nearing until hospice gave me a book that explained a lot - if you don't have that book, it's called "Gone from my sight".
Making arrangements was pretty difficult for us as well, but it was nice to arrange everything the way my dad would've wanted it...and the services were very nice.
I'll keep you and your hubby in my prayers....