Dad diagnosed with pancreatic cancer
Hi all, I am hoping for some direction for anyone who has lost a loved one to terminal cancer. My father and I are very close, he basically brought me up and is the only parent I have known as my mom passed when I was younger. He has had aches and pains the past yrs and an irregular heart beat (afib). He was very very weak and tired beginning last week. My sister who lives a few miles from him in AZ took him to his primary for a visit, he told him to go to the ER regarding his heart. Well, they shocked his heart and his heart starting beating normally again. We thought that was it. Well, last year my father went to another hospital re his heart and they found two little spots on his lungs, but were not worried about it and told him to get it checked up 6 months later--which he did not, nor did his primary follow up (it STUNS me the hospital did not look into these spots regardless of the size at that time). So while in the hospital for this visit, the doctor wanted to run some tests. They found what they thought was cancer in his liver. I immediatly flew out from San Franciso with my brother and just as we were entering my dads room, the oncologist was in there telling him he has stage 4 pancreatic cancer which is not treatable, he said at best he has a yr. I am so devasted and do not know what to do. My father has always been such a strong man and it is ripping me apart to know that he has this. I am so lost and so so sad. I arrived home today from AZ and just do not know what to do or what to expect. Thankfully my sister lives near him however she has a family and also needs to balance her life. I feel so helpless being here in San Francisco. I think my brother may move out temporarily to live with my dad to help as well. I am so fearful that my dad is going to get more depressed and the last thing I want him to feel is lonely.
How do I handle this? What do I do? I dont know how to make it through this. Please offer me any advice you may have.