Re: Wife of Rectal Cancer/Colostomny Patient
First, hope and hugs for a recovery! The most challenging thing for me (and my hubby) was dealing with the ick-factor of having a colostomy. Having to empty it, clean it, change it...sigh. I was sent home from Duke Med with the most basic supplies. My life improved dramatically once i found a well informed ostomy nurse who took time to go thru all the options available for products.
After my recovery, chemo and radiation, they were able to reverse mine (20 months post surgery). There are challenges with that, too, but that is a question for another day.
My suggestion for you is to reassure hubby that you love him and his body - even with the colostomy and surgery scars. I really think it is easier for women to accept bodily changes (in ourselves or loved ones) since we deal with having a period, changing diapers, cleaning vomit, etc.
Also, it is VERY common to become lactose intolerant post treatment. Mine went undiagnosis for 2 years and caused me untold hours of frustration from nearly constant diarrhea.