Re: Mum diagnosed with nsclc and no one wil give me any answers
Sorry for all that your going through and your Mum's diagnosis. My father in law was diagnosed with NSCLC in March of 2011, about the same situation as your Mum's but his was Stage II. There was no surgical option and they did several rounds of "light" chemo and some radiation. His mestatisized to his lymphnodes. He died 6 months later in October...the cancer advanced very quickly.
He was a very healthy, vigorous, young 60 yr old. He traveled worldwide on business frequently, was very active in his son and grandsons life and his diagnosis was a complete shock...one day he was fine and the next he had cancer and not too much time later he was dead.
So, if your Mum's is already at an untreatable Stage IV, they're probably being overly optimistic giving her 2-3 months. I'd definitely let your kids spend time with her now while she's still coherent some of the time. My father in laws last month was spent completely in bed, incoherent 80% of the time on so many medications trying to control his pain that he didn't know who he was, where he was or who any of his family was most of the time. It was very, very hard.
I send you my deepest sympathies and my prayers are with you and your family.