Re: Colon cancer with liver mets
I am so sorry you are faced with such severe problems at a young age. The time he has left depends a great deal on how aggressive his cancer is and how much of his liver is compromised with mets. His Dr could give you some info on that. I would highly recommend if he hasn't done so yet. for him to apply for disability, since he is still working. He could live a few years if the mets are small and his cancer not too aggressive, and that will at least provide income when he gets too sick to work. Fatigue will probably be his initial symptom of advancing disease, and he may lose his appetite and weight, or have specific food aversions. His liver enzymes will be a good indication of progression of disease, and if they are still normal, the mets are early. Jaundice, swelling, pain, confusion, lethargy are late signs. If the mets are early he may have quite a while before he starts to feel ill, so I would encourage you to do all you can to live your life in a normal way, and get in some of the experiences, trips, etc he has always wanted to do while you are able. Try to take care also of financial matters now before he has any alteration of mental abilities, which can make legal matters, like wills, invalid. I would talk to a good estate attorney to get advice on positioning any assets appropriately so you don't have huge tax consequences or hassles getting access to your funds later on. The laws around this are complicated! There are lots of really understanding and supportive folks on the boards to help you, so keep in touch. You can ask for hospice care when the estimated time left is 6 months or less, and I would highly recommend you take advantage of their wonderful services. My hope is that you have time left together that is loving, enjoyable, and that you can live in the present, not in the future. You don't want the inevitable to be a constant cloud over you from now on. Enjoy the sunshine while it is still out, and deal with the clouds when they come. Easier said than done I know, but worth striving toward.