| | what can I do???
Okay...advice please...my "daughter" is 21 & in her first relationship with a guy ever. He is 22. She is an untreated dependent personality disorder. She left to move in with him after 6 weeks...she now has cut off all ties to me & her brother & sisters. She still hasn't contacted any of her friends to tell them where she is.
He was very charming at first...but then I started to see some of his true colors. He was dating a girl for 4 years, saw "my daughter", decided "he wanted her" broke up with his girlfriend, (promise ring on her finger) and started dating my daughter a week later...INTENSE RELATIONSHIP right from the start...he insisted. He is a total narcacist, controls her totally, makes all her decisons & does all her talking for her. She has no car, (HE drives her everywhere) no money, they live way out in the country, she is alienated from everything except him & his family (they live with his mom & dad-who are total religious freaks & trying to convert her). He has a history of beating up his brother & hitting his horses...although I don't think he has hit her....at least not yet. They are spreading rumors that I have abused her, which is not true at all! But he has convinced her somehow that this is true. She "thinks" this is love to be so dependent & submissive to him...
what do i do? she is giving up her whole life to this guy?? i want to get her help, meds & counseling..or she will be miserable all her life, and not living her life, but his.
HELP?? Any suggestions?? PLEASE??